28 THINGS THAT REALLY DO MATTER IN MARRIAGE

28 THINGS THAT REALLY DO MATTER IN MARRIAGEn (Short Shots On Living An Exceptional Life) n © Lee Wise All rights reserved

In my opinion, these things matter...

1. Valuing commitment over instant pleasure and faithfulnessnbeyond short term displeasure.

2. Telling less tha
I feel for the purpose of learningnmore tha
I know.

3. Choosing to have mutual conflict become the playingnfield where we celebrate victory as opposed to the battlenfield where the only winners are division and discord.

4. Delighting in the dream of another -- not necessarilynbecause I share the dream but because I'm in love with thenone who owns it.

5. Appreciating what I do well in the face of what thenother does better -- and doing so without downplayingneither.

6. Calling it a night before calling it off.

7. Reinforcing habits that heal and breaking habits thatnmake healing necessary.

8. Misplacing grudges more often and finding praises morenoften than not.

9. Making honor a way of seeing,
10. Gratefulness a way of speaking,
11. Listening with the heart a way of hearing,
12. And responding in self-control a way of emoting.

13. Striving to win as a team instead of simply striving tonwin.

14. Saying "I love you" more often -- without saying it.

15. Keeping a better score of what was done right than whatnwasn't done "as right as I would like."

16. Misplacing "You should have" more and finding "I'm gladnyou did" more often.

17. Developing and maintaining our own mutual admirationnsociety.

18. Helping when I can,
19. Stopping when I should,
20. And listening a whole lot in between.

21. Speaking truth without a hurtful agenda and laying asidenconflicting agendas for the sake of loving in truth.

22. Hating the word "betrayed" and choosing to join forcesnin waging a war against all it represents.

23. Loving for all the relationship is worth -- because itnreally is worth it all.

24. Working hard at words that work well instead of makingnit hard because "working hard at the relationship" is not innmy vocabulary.

25. Realizing that forgiveness doesn't automatically makeneverything right -- it simply creates a more solidnfoundation for the remainder of the journey.

26. Learning how to laugh, cry, struggle, shout, pout,nfight, celebrate and rejoice as a couple that cares asnopposed to one that cares not at all.

27. Realizing there is no such thing as a "50/50"nrelationship in marriage. It's a "110/110" deal. We givenour all -- and then some -- in order to make it all worknout.

28. Choosing to make laughter, encouragement, joy, andnmutual expressions of love permanent residents in our homeninstead of guests we hope will some day arrive. nn=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=n© Lee Wise All rights reserved. You may freely distributenthis article. The copyright and this resource box must benincluded.

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