3 Secrets of Couples Who Love Sex

How can you make it happen, too? Lusty couples have some secrets for keeping the usual sex-sappers -- children, fatigue, boredom -- at bay. How do they engineer things to keep their marriage newlywed-hot? Click below to find out.rn1. They Know Sex Doesn't Always Mean SexrnNot in the traditional sense anyway. "Couples with the most active sex lives are those who don't think sex solely means 'intercourse,'" says Susan Crain Bakos, author of Sexational Secrets."They may opt for oral sex, mutual masturbation, or even just some slow, sensuous kissing instead." So, forget about making frequency of intercourse the goal. Instead, increase your basic physical contact -- from holding hands to lathering each other up in a shower for two. Some nights you feel in the mood for foreplay only. Fine. It may or may not lead to intercourse. Still fine. Once you drop your expectations of what sex should be, it becomes a special time together when you and your partner invent the rules ... and the anticipation begins to return. rn2. They Pencil Each Other InrnFor many women, the thought of scheduling a romantic interlude is about as big a turn-on as an appointment with the dentist. Whatever happened to the almost insatiable passion that ruled those early days of coupledom? "Less spontaneity is normal in a long-term relationship," asserts Shirley Zussman, Ed.D., a sex therapist in New York City, "So you need to make sex dates at least once a week, more often than your usual frequency, and take turns getting physical -- you give him a back rub on Monday, he nuzzles your neck on Tuesday. That way, no one feels solely responsible for getting sex started." 3. They Launch Sneak AttacksrnScheduling is great, but very sexy couples also know not to stand on ceremony. They get physical whenever, wherever they can. "Slip your hands up his shirt while he's watching the 10 o'clock news," says Judith Sachs, author of The Healing Power of Sex. "Or, if you're out at night, invite him to make out in the backseat of the car -- or the back row at the movies." The element of surprise helps make sex more exciting ... which makes you want to do it more often.