5 Tips To Gain Self Confidence

Some people struggle with low confidence. It can be so low as to be painful and hold a person back from doing many things in life.nnGaining self confidence is a process that can take some time, but is certainly worth it. How can you build on it? It is a matter of changing the messages you might have been given as a child, and your self talk now.nnHere are some tips to gain confidence, feel better about yourself and your situation in life. nn1. Listen to what you tell yourself. nnMuch of what we say to ourselves, when we have low self confidence is negative. Catch what you are saying to yourself and turn it around to something positive. It may take a while, as it becomes a habit. Just start listening and then use the second tip.nn2. Use positive self talk.nnTalk to your self in a positive way, even if you need to talk to yourself outloud. This can be anything from affirmations, to thinking positively about your accomplishments. This helps gain self confidence.nnFor example, when learning something new: Maybe you say “Man, I am stupid. I just can’t get this”.Change that to: “ I have learned many challenging things in the past (then list a couple), I see other people doing this, and I can learn it too”.nn3. Make a list of your good points and accomplishments.nnCome on, you DO have some good points, and you have accomplished some things. Don’t be so hard on yourself. nnTake some time to write a list. This will get it out on paper where you can see it. Maybe you have never really taken a look at your good points, or accomplishments. Pat yourself on the back figuratively. Good job. nn4. Reference Your ListnnPut your list where you will see it every day. If you don’t want other people to see it, how about putting it in your sock drawer. Every day you get clean socks and can remind yourself of your positive aspects to gain self confidence. If you don’t mind other people see it, put it in a prominent place. Put a mini one in your wallet to refer when away from home.nnWherever you put it, start your day out by reading the list over. Read it again in the evening. nnChange your list as you need to. You may think of new positive aspects of yourself, or be able to add to your list of accomplishments.nn5. If you start to feel down or overwhelmed, give yourself a talking to. nnEveryone goes through things in their life, what ever brought your self confidence down, is not often permanent. It will change, Or time will go bye and people will forget.nnStart using these tips today to develop more confidence.