Body Language Secrets: Capture the Attention of the Man You Want

Body language is any nonverbal or bodily movement that we make when we communicate. It ranges from the slightest movements that most of us are not even aware of (e.g. facial expression), to our specific postures and gestures. We do a lot of talking every day. But, we send and receive nonverbal signals all the time—although we are not particularly aware about it. In fact, body language is a vital part of communication which can constitute as much as 50-80% of what we are communicating. See the lady on the next table? That pursed lip or knitted eyebrows say a lot even if the person doesn’t utter a single word. nn In the dating world, women commonly use body language to attract the attention of the opposite sex. Some have become gurus, while others apparently still have a lot to learn. Many complain that they always attract the wrong type of guy. Is body language to blame? Read on and learn how to capture the attention of the man you want! Whether checking your watch or opening your purse, each movement should be done smoothly, gracefully and in a feminine way. Men like to look; show them that you are proud to be a woman. Long or short, stroking or flipping the hair can be very suggestive. nnAdd just a hint of smile and he will surely get excited. Another way is to expose the neck—men love to see clean, clear and smooth skin which is a sign of good health. One sure way to capture his attention is to look directly into his eyes as he looks around the room. No, don’t stare. Just hold the connection a little longer than normally done if you are bold enough. However, maintaining eye contact for a shy person can be difficult. If you can only do it for a few seconds, just repeat it once or twice. When he catches your glance the third time, he should get the message that you’re interested. nnDon’t make a habit of crossing your arms. Some women do this when they are uncomfortable; others because of their big chests. Crossing the arms is as effective as wearing a skimpy dress with a huge, blinking “BACK OFF!” sign. Let him know that you are interested by conveying openness. Open palms and arms, squaring your shoulders in his direction, leaning into his space and your toes pointing at him all convey the same thing: that you are open to him. If he’s not your type, just do the opposite: cross your legs, turn away and angle your whole body away from him. nnKeep moving. Touch your hair, straighten your dress or simply put your fingers up your neck. Touch is a powerful body language cue, even for men. By touching a body part (e.g. the lips) or bringing the hands near, you draw attention to yourself and send him a signal that you like him. Smile! Smiling is as easy as 1-2-3, crosses all cultural lines, and is the most powerful tool you’ll ever have. A bright smile not only tells him that you are interested—it also shows your beauty and vibrant personality. Ultimately, what you don’t say can speak volumes about you: just don’t try too hard and concentrate on your body language because it may make you seem stiff and uncomfortable. nn Since most of these movements are done automatically, ask your family and friends whether you have undesirable ones (e.g. nail biting or smacking your lips) and work on it. This might just be the reason why you never seem to catch the attention of your ideal man.