Change Happens in spite of Therapy - One of the Truths About Coaching

I was sat in my living room the other day just thinking about all the great things that have happened in my life over the past three or four years and I started to wonder about all the changes that have happened. I got to thinking about how the coaches I have, the friends I have and the people I surround myself with have, in their own way, created changes in my life. The more I thought about this and wondered how they helped me to change, I started to realise what it was. People change when you give them space to change on their own When a Formula One racing driver is speeding along the race course at over 100MPH, he knows which way to go because the road twists and turns in certain ways and in that moment, he's happy to follow that route because he knows it leads to the finish line. It's not the only finish line the racing driver will ever come across because each race has it's own path, each has it's own twists and turns and each one has a different route to the finish line. It's not the road that makes the racing driver good or not, it's his ability to use what's available to him and to be tenacious about getting where he wants to be. The road is just the guide that shows which way to turn at which point and when it's a good time to put your foot down and really go for it full speed. The road also helps the driver to know when it's a good idea to slow down and take it easy, because sometimes, the best way to get around a corner is to just slow down, aim the car, and let the road take you in the right direction. To me, coaching is similar in many ways. Sometimes people come to me an expect me to perform miracles in their lives. I always explain to them that miracles will happen, but they won't be because of me. Just like the road acts as a guide for the race driver, so too does a coach act as a guide to their clients. Michael Neill often tells the story of a stick that was floating down a river and got stuck in the weeds. The stick didn't need therapy, it just needed a small nudge to get it flowing back down the river. When I think about all of the wonderful changes that have happened in my life over the past few years, I realise that a lot of those changes happened because I was able to let them happen. The people around me were able to help my life to transform by just being around and acting as guides in my life. Change happens inspite of therapy, not because of it. One of the truths about being a coach is that we're here to help our clients aim their changes and transformations. It's one thing to laugh and it's one thing to change, but to aim that laughter at the problems of the past and direct that change to an even more inspiring future, to me, that's what sets my soul on fire and that's what I love about the work I have the pleasure of doing. As always, with love.