The Relationship Miracle That Can Happen More Than Once

While searching the web recently for the perfect movie to go to, we stumbled across a trailer for a movie called "Someone Like You."

We didn't see the movie,but we did figure out from the film clip that it was about a woman who just couldn't seem to create relationships with men that worked.

There was a great line from the film clip that summed up one of the biggest fears people have about relationships which were once filled with passion, life and connection but are no longer working.

The line was--"Maybe that's why we hold on--because we don't believe such a miracle could happen more than once."

The "miracle " is the passion, love and connection that we are told will only come around once (if we are lucky).

Were here to suggest that yes, it can happen more than once because it has happened more than once to both of us.

We get e-mail messages every day from people who are hanging on to relationships that apparently have no life to them at all. Some of these are people who are in relationships that were once alive but no longer are. And there are other people who write to us who are lingering in relationships that have never worked.

At the very foundation of both of these examples is fear.

Fear can manifest itself in a multitude of disguises-- Fear of what others will say, fear of being a failure(again), guilt, fear of not being able to please others,fear that the relationship that you find yourself in is as good as it gets and more.

But, the bottom line is if you don't have the relationship that you want--you don't feel worthy to step up and claim the relationship of your dreams.

Think back to when you were a kid and one summer you or your very best friend moved away. Your heart was crushed and you thought you'd never find another "best friend" again.

But, you probably did.

Now, we're not suggesting that you lightly throw your intimate relationships away when things get a little tough or that they are easily replaced. On the contrary, we believe that these times are great periods of growth if both people are willing and open to communicating with each other.

What we're saying is that if you have satisfied yourself that you have done everything you can possibly do to make this relationship work and it still isn't working--it may be time to move on.

If you have decided it is time to move on it is our knowing that YES the miracle of love can happen twice or more.

Last year we were at Omega Institute in New York attending a weekend workshop with Gary Zukav and His spiritual partner Linda Francis.

Their workshop was wonderful--but what was equally as wonderful was watching, when our workshop was not in session, Sam Keen, The author of the book,"Learning to Fly" teach novices how to "fly" on the trapeze .

In each case, every person had to be willing to let go of one trapeze bar in order to "fly" and catch the other.

We often think of this wonderful example when we are faced with letting go of a job or something in our lives that no longer serves us.

We've found that you just have to willing to walk through your fears and let go of that bar that you've been holding onto so that you can move on to the next part of your life.

There's just no other way.