Confidence Builders – How to Improve Yours

“Calm down” have you ever heard someone tell someone to “Calm down”. We need to calm ourselves down when we are in a stressful situation and we are feeling helpless, out of control, and our mind is hitting us with a preponderance of negative thoughts. What if this happens? or What if that happens? The plain truths about “what if’s” are they usually don’t happen. However, we are conditioned to think of the worst case scenario. Usually, our body language plays right along with our mind – jittery, moving, talking, or laughing too much. When this happens take a few breaths, clear your mind, and “calm down”. nnThis is the second article in a three part series on self-confidence builders. The purpose of these articles are to help you build or increase your confidence. In them I will give you some pointers that you can apply immediately to help you in this area. nnKnow what you are capable of and do it. No one knows everything. However, whatever areas in your life or business you are expected to know you need to be knowledgeable. If you have a home-based internet marketing business and or network marketing business you are not expected to know everything there is to know about them. However, the area of the business the area of the business you specialize in position yourself (by researching, take training courses to acquire the proper knowledge) as that particular area expert. Perform self-talk tell yourself you are knowledgeable in that area and are capable of sharing your knowledge with others in a global market. nnMake it a habit to be self-confident eliminate all distractions that are interfering with your concentration of being a positive, uplifting, and a confident person. Remember, your thoughts, speech, and body language are indicators of your confidence level. If you are in a negative or destructive relationship and or environment, they could possibly hinder you from building your confidence.nnKnow your strengths and weaknesses. Know what you are good at verses what you are not and work in your areas of strength. Work on your areas of weakness and while you are working on these areas, if you have a partner or friend who is good in your weak area, allow them to assist you. Always build yourself up, pat yourself on the back and dwell on your positive aspects. Do not dwell on negative thoughts about yourself, always think on the things you do well. Always encourage yourself do not depend on others to validate or affirm you. Remember to “cancel” all negative thoughts with an overwhelming influx of the positive aspects of yourself.nnKnow who you are and who and what are important to you. Know what you value and what motivate, and inspire you. “Be true to thyself”, as we would say in my neighborhood “be real”, especially with yourself. We can put on airs and facades with other people but at the end of the day we have to look in the mirror and make a real assessment of ourselves. We have to ask ourselves why am I making false impressions of myself to others? I’m I that concerned about what others think of me that I have to pretend to be someone I’m not? If you are so concerned about what others think of you, then you need to make improvements in your deficient areas. If there is something about yourself you are not pleased with, then make an honest effort to change it, if it can be changed. nnNeedless to say, we all have life challenges, deficiencies, and struggles because life (things) happens. Oprah said, “the greatest lesson of my life (has been) to recognize I am solely responsible for it, and not trying to please other people, and not living my life to please other people, but doing what my heart says all the time”.