Considered Getting A Divorce? Read This (pt.1)

Being a strong advocate of the marriage vows; I am convinced that outside of extreme circumstances such as physical or severe substance abuse, chronic infidelity, and your spouse is not willing to change any of these for the sake of the marriage, I do believe that most marriages can be saved.nn It is a known fact that Hollywood glamorise marriages and down play the pain and emotional distress of divorce. The trauma of blending families and single parenthood is not fully exposed in their films. We are also not often revealed to the 'war' between spouses, as they make decisions between their biological and step children; which sometimes causes up to 60% divorce rate in second marriages.nn Nor are we exposed to the poverty level of many singe parents, especially women. Hollywood implies that the process of and life after divorce seem so easy.nn In a survey given to many young men and women, it is their desire to get married and stay together. Not to mention that this is such a healthy thing for the society as a whole. It is a proven fact that people who remain married for long periods of time live much happier and healthier lives. And this long term commitment benefits men, women children and society as a whole.nn Here are two other points to consider in thinking about divorce. If you have friends or family members who are divorced, and they feel that the divorced has improved their lives dramatically, that doesn't mean that you will feel the same way too.nn Additionally, you may feel like a divorce will free you from your spouse, however, when children are involved, 'there is no such thing as divorce.' That spouse will remain in your life for years to come because, you will be in communication about visitations, vacations, money, holidays, any other partners that may have entered either of your lives, and many other issues relating to that child.nn As a matter of fact, spouses don't disappear with divorce, and neither does your problems. nnIn a marriage people develop relationship habits, so in a divorce, when one person leaves, he/she take their habits with them.nn Sign up to have more relationship/marriage tips and ideas delivered to your e-mail box at:nn http://www.bestmarriagesecretsblog.comn