Cutting Through Stress

Stress is something that comes with everyday life. It's not something that we can eliminate completely or need to avoid at all costs, but there are ways to manage stress so that it doesn't consume you. The holidays are almost upon us and even though it's a happy time we all know that it's also a stressful time. Maybe I can help you get through the holiday season with a little less stress.

Stress when left out of control can cause significant anxiety or depression, as well as physical illness, so we need to look at ways of managing the stress we feel on a daily basis. Of course I will assert that meditation does significantly reduce stress and the detrimental effects on our minds and bodies. It is proven scientifically that even small amounts of meditation daily can cut down on the negative effects of stress, and not only helps us to cope better and stay grounded, but will help you to view the world in a more centred, kind and loving way.

When something comes up for you that creates stress, stop and ask yourself what, if anything you can do about the situation. Can you manage or change the stressor? If there is nothing that you can do to change the stressor then you can simply view it in a different manner. If you find that you cannot keep up with bill payments for example, you can assess the situation and ask yourself, 'Is there anything that I can do to lessen the stress?' Can you allocate money to where it is needed most, or find ways to earn or free up more money? Can I borrow against any equity or sell off or refinance any assets? If there is nothing that you can do then you need to resign yourself to that fact and not worry about it. Either you can pay the bills or you cannot, and worrying about paying the bills is not going to change the fact that you are having difficulty paying the bills. Worrying can add even more stress and lead to anxiety, depression or physical illness, as well as getting in the way of finding options and taking action.

Try to look at the stressor objectively, that is to say, without your personal beliefs, perceptions, and emotions attached. Break it down into smaller more manageable parts and set out a plan to deal with each part. Ask yourself, 'Is getting upset going to reduce my stress level?' Unfortunately, we tend to go to the worst case scenario when looking at stressful events that come up. The majority of the time (over 95%) the worst case scenario does not occur and we will have created even more stress than the original stressor does.

Make a plan for the stress that you can manage and don't worry about what you cannot control. If stress does become overwhelming to you and you cannot seem to find options, then I urge you to speak to a professional and seek guidance. That's what we are here for. Don't feel like you have to tackle everything on your own. It is often helpful just to speak with someone about how you are feeling or what is going on with you. Sharing some of your stressors may aid in brainstorming options that you may not have thought about previously. Have a great holiday season and remember to keep your face to the sunshine!