Family Court Violence – When Mommy Is Punishment and Children Are Abuse

When domestic violence is before the court, fortified with finance and politics, the net result is the protective parent is about punishment and the children are about abuse.nnSound strange? If you’re living it, the strange nightmare while twisted is ever so true.nnFar too often when domestic abuse survivors seek remedy for family violence in family court, they discover that the abuse they longed to arrest is perpetuated by domestic relations court. Here’s why:nnFamily Court Is an Improper Forum to Arrest Family ViolencennThis court is actually not the proper forum to remedy domestic violence, because of the fact that holding either party accountable for their actions in a marriage is irrelevant to divorce court. However, this accountability is essential to arrest family violence.nnHolding a perpetrator accountable for their battering behavior is a necessary step to stopping domestic abuse, especially if it is expected that both parents remain in the abused children’s lives. But this step is overlooked when finance and/or politics are in place to sweep the big elephant right back under the carpet. nnThere is no ownership, no accountability and no responsibility for the abuse toward the family. So what then happens to the abuse? It goes in its natural direction. It escalates. That’s right, it gets worse. It may change its form; however, its intensity grows.nnIn many cases, ultimately the abused children are denied access to their protective parent and the protective parent is denied access to their abused children. Once established, this pattern is maintained by the children coming to know punishment should they reach out to the protective parent. And for the estranged parent, reaching out to the children invites a taste of abuse.nnHow Does One Prevent This Vicious Cycle of Family Abuse?nnIf you are in family court with an abuser and there are children in your nest, beware if finances and politics are in arms’ reach of your opposition. You could be headed for lasting abuse rather than a family violence remedy.