Flirting Effectively

Men and women flirt for different reasons and also expect different outcomes to the flirting. However, if you put aside that outcome and flirt just to be friendly you are opening yourself up to a lot of different opportunities. You might well end up with a new lover but if that doesn’t happen you could meet someone who becomes a very good friend and who knows who she may introduce you to. Always keep your options open. Once you have exchanged glances and smiles from across the room and you're fairly confident that she thinks that she may like to get to know you better, send a drink over to her. But also remember that all you are buying her is a drink. Don’t expect her to fall head over heals in love with you. Sometimes it's nice just to buy someone a drink, watch her when she receives it and smile, then look away – look back again later to show her your interested in her. If you find yourself being invited to her table, keep your mind on the conversation and not on making a date with her. Most women want to know what kind of man they are considering going out with long before they actually go out with the man. Make a conscious effort to get to know her and give her the opportunity to get to know you before asking her out on a date. You should never approach two women in the same group. No woman wants to feel like she's second best. Refrain from approaching one woman after another that are in the same group. You will look like a loser and the women may also think that you are desperate and looking for any woman that may be available. Even if you are, don’t show it. If you compliment a woman make sure that it's a genuine compliment. Nothing is worse than giving out a load of ridiculous pick-up lines. All women have something great about them, notice it and compliment her genuinely. Don't ever put your hands on a woman uninvited. Some women may have no objection to the ‘touchy’ type encounters, but some women are horrified by it. Respect the person until you have had the opportunity to get to know more about her. Touching can be a lovely flirty action, but should be confined to the arms or resting the hand just above the arm and not touching, until you know more. Test the personal space by moving closer, always noticing the reaction then moving back a little to remove the threat. Respect yourself at all times. Women always fall for men who are just that little bit unreachable. Don't hover or act desperate. Think of yourself as special and know that you deserve the very best.