Shake Hands and Know !

Shake Hands and Know !nnOur behaviour is a path to our inner self . How we behave in differentcircumstances gives indication of what we are , what we are thinking , whatour normal and transient nature is . Any of our expressions can be traced toour nature and can be a rich source of information . Walking , talking ,combing hair , standing , sleeping , sitting , looking and shaking hands allare such expressions . Shaking hands is an accepted ritual of greetingpeople . If we closely observe the process of shaking hands it can give usplethora of information .nnLet us first understand the mechanism of shaking hands . While you areshaking hands please stand steady with a distance of about half meter inbetween your feet , back straight and look at the newcomer in the eye in afriendly way . Try to take in the friend as a whole at a glance. Notice asmany things about him as possible - like at the first level his height ,body posture , girth , weight distribution , hair density , age , color ,thickness of limbs , color and texture of clothes , fitting of the dress .At second level you can notice the facial expression , body condition liketautness , perspiration and smell . At the third level you may notice theexpression in the eyes .nnAs you offer to shake hands , do not overextend . Stand at a distance ofabout one meter from the other person , and extend your hand bent at elbow .Let him extend his hand rest of the way . Hold his hand in a grip that feelsnatural to you.nnNow we come to the awareness part . The awareness here has to be throughfeeling alone. Some of the points which you need to be aware of are - Is hishand so big that it covers all of your palm ? Is his hand particularly small? Are the fingers long or short ? How is the thumb placed on the hand ? Arethe fingers fleshy , devoid of flesh , knotty , just too thick , or lean ?How is the texture of the hand ? It is rough on the surface and soft belowor rough throughout or soft throughout ? How is the texture of the nails ?Are the nails smooth or opening up ? Are the nails bitten roughly at theends ? How is the hand grip ? Does he offer the base of the palm or gripsyour hand by his fingers alone ? Is his thumb only is doing the holding job? Does his palm just lie in your grip , or he squeezes softly ? Is the griploose , tight , impatient or assuring ? Is his palm sweating or cold or warm? Can you feel his pulse ? These are some of the areas you can be aware of .nnDo not be in a hurry to let go the hand . Shake the hand up and down . Easeup and take a better grip. Then smile and let the hand go .nnI know the question at the top of your mind which you want to ask . Whatdoes it all mean ? I have observed myself , I have observed the other personat all the three levels , I stood in the position you told me to and shookhands with the person in the way you suggested . I have gathered all thedata . How do I squeeze information from all the data I have gathered ?nnHERE IS THE CATCH !nnAll the data we have collected is relative and subjective data . It isrelative to us and subjective to the extent our thinking and relatingpattern . For example if I am very soft spoken person , I will feel everyonearound talks in a loud voice . I am timid , I will feel everyone around isaggressive . And so on. Everything I perceive is relative to my frame ofreference.nnThus the handshake is a multipurpose tool . We can understand the otherperson well when we understand ourselves better . The handshake tells youthe kind of relationship you may be able to strike up with the next person .It talks about relationship and not about relative . ( Rishtedary is known ,not necessarily the rishtedar . ) . It also tells you what kind of behaviorwill be welcome by the next person and if you are upto it .nnMake a habit of shaking hands all around with proper awareness . Shakinghands with number of people will also start putting together the pieces ofthe jig saw called you . This will allow you to know yourselves better ,have information about others and build bridges all around .nnA ready reckoner table is given below for just about whetting your appetitein the subject. The table is not absolute nor final and needs to be usedwith proper care and caution . nn The ready reckoner is based on extremes . This is management by exceptions .What is exceptional we are taking note of . Thus we do not have muchexplanation for medium grip but have one for loose grip or exceptionallystrong grip . As we go along in the study of hand shaking , the extremes canbe shrunk substantially and the middle area too starts making substantialcontribution .nnBig hand shows an eye for details , managerial person , methodical worker .Small hand shows big plans , visionary and imaginative nature , working byleaps and bounds .nnLong fingers shows that the person takes time to think things out or to takedecisions . It also shows lack of action or active energy .Short fingers show short fuse , temperamental personBulging phalanges show happy go lucky materialistic existence , possessiveperson .nnPerspiration shows high strung natureStrong grip shows possessiveness and powerFingers only grip shows superficial relationship or doubts aboutrelationship .