How To Calm Yourself In Stressful Situations

Has something stressful or upsetting happened to you recently? Maybe it was a fender bender car accident, or telling a friend she did something that hurt you, or being triggered by something your spouse said, or stepping on stage to make a presentation. nnEven when you are following what lights you up and creating more of what you truly want in life, not every moment of every day will be filled with ease, joy, and pleasure. Each of us has moments, situations, and experiences that stress and upset us. nnWhat can you do to help yourself during those times? How can you calm yourself until you gain more perspective to effectively deal with the situation? nnUse your personal 911!nn******************************nWhat Is a Personal 911?n******************************n911 is the phone number we call in the U.S. when we have an emergency and need help fast. We don't have to figure out what kind of help is needed or which number to call; we already know if we have any kind of emergency, dial 911. The 911 dispatcher sends the police, fire department, or medical responders; the right help is quickly on its way. 911 is an easy and effective emergency system. nnWhat about when you have a more personal "emergency?" You can't call the community 911 system just because you're stressed, jarred, upset, anxious, angry, or afraid and want some relief and help quickly. But you can call on your own personal 911.nnYour personal 911 is a sentence, phrase or word you say to yourself during trying times, something designed to ease and calm you. Your 911 is simple and easy so you can use it anytime and anywhere. nnYou choose it in advance and use it as your first, immediate response when you are stressed and upset. No need to think about it; as soon as you realize you need personal emergency help, you just start saying it. nnYour personal 911 will provide some quick relief, reducing your stress and calming you. Once you're calmer, you can then take whatever additional actions are needed to help yourself and to deal with the situation. nn******************************nWould One of These Work For You?n******************************nI just used a personal 911 myself. I was meeting a friend for breakfast and I had something to discuss that was difficult for me. Anticipating the conversation stirred me up; I was agitated and anxious, my mind was racing. nnTo calm myself, I used one of my personal 911s: "I choose peace." I kept saying this to myself over and over and over again. I was able to shift some of my attention from the thoughts that were upsetting me to more soothing thoughts. nnDid it make my problem disappear? No, but I was able to become much calmer than I had been. This felt better plus it allowed me to have a more effective conversation with my friend than I would have had if I'd been completely agitated.nnHere are a few examples of personal 911s I and others have used:n* I choose peace.n* I choose love.n* I choose serenity.n* I choose joy.n* I choose love over fear. n* Everything is perfect.n* All is well.n* God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,nthe courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know thendifference.nnWhile you're saying the words, you could also do a grounding technique such as pressing your feet firmly on the floor, rubbing your palms together, or deep breathing. Many people also add a homeopathic aid such as Bach's Rescue Remedy. nn******************************nIn Your Lifen******************************nIf you'd like to experiment with this the next time you're stressed or upset, here are some suggestions.nn1) Choose your 911 now. nYou've probably heard people say "I can hardly think straight!" Science has now shown that, in fact, we can't think clearly under certain conditions. When you are flooded with feelings and physiological stress responses you'll have a very hard time figuring out how to help yourself. nnHave your emergency response prepared so it's ready when you need it. Then, in the midst of a stressful situation, you won't have to figure out what to do -- you just start saying your 911!nn2) Choose something that will work for you. nThere is not a universal personal 911 that will work best for everybody. Your most effective 911 will speak strongly to you: be powerful and meaningful enough for you that it will calm you, shift your attention, and switch your perspective. It may be one of the examples above or it may be something completely different.nn3) Use it! nWhen you're feeling stressed or upset, use your 911. Repeat it over and over, like a mantra. If you start with the little things, the stuff that's mildly upsetting, you can build your ability to use this in tougher situations as well. nnnYour personal 911 is a simple tool to add to your life toolkit. You can quickly and easily call on it when you're in situations that challenge you. Using your personal 911 will reduce your stress, calm you, and allow you to more effectively respond to the situation.nnEnjoy!