How to Control Your Destiny

There are millions of people who suffer from a very common illness. Unfortunately, most of these people who suffer from the illness are unaware of the symptoms, causes, and treatment. Many people suffer from being control freaks. Control is very much like an addiction. These people feel more alive, more powerful when they know where everything is at all times. But this is impossible, because no one can be in control all the time.

There is something in nature that is called cosmic dualism. This dualism divides the world into two separate spheres. It is really common sense when you think about it. There is lightness and darkness, there is right and left, and heads and tails. The concept is even discussed in the Christian fate. Many Christians refer to heaven as being good and hell as being bad. Psychologists also used dualities to describe different aspects or parts of the mind. The mind is divided into unconscious and conscious entities. Even spiritualists believe in the separation between the body and soul.

This concept gets a little tricky when we begin to realize that we can’t be at two places at once. We cannot turn both right and left at the same time. A coin cannot be both heads and tails at the same time. And it cannot be both light and dark at the same time. These divisions force us to make choices. If we choose one side, then we lose out on the potential opportunities and pitfalls that could be on the other side. What is the solution to this problem? We have to pick the right side.

The millions of people throughout the world who are diagnosed as control freaks have picked the wrong side. They are viewing the world from the outside in, instead of the inside out. The great Buddha had it right many centuries ago. He believed that many people suffered because they put too much emphasis on the exte
al world. People who are control freaks have serious issues with attachment. They are attached to people and things. Most importantly, they are attached to certain outcomes.

They are demanding, and have really high expectations that no one can realistically meet. Their insecurities and lack of wholeness cause them to have problems with others. They have a difficult time accepting themselves fully, so they are unable to accept others.

They can’t determine what thoughts and actions they need to change to have a better life. They constantly argue and fight with others who have different ideas, opinions, and beliefs. They feel resistance from others, because they are unconsciously resisting and rejecting others. These are the people who foolishly believe that they are mastering their fate. In truth, they are allowing others to be their master.
We will never be able to fully understand the outside world. We will never be able to master this world, because we will never have access to all of its information. It makes better sense to master our selves. We can do this by exploring the unconscious parts of the mind, by taking the time to heal our soul, and by understanding that our internal world is the heaven that we choose to create.

We are able to control our destiny when we create our own experiences according to our perceptions. We control our destiny when we understand that the faults that we see in others are the things that we lack inside of ourselves. We control our own destiny when we realize that we are only in control of our inner world. And the outside world is always going to be crazy and unpredictable.