How To Talk To Women

Angelica was a gorgeous 24 year old graduate student who had nasked me this question: "Why don't men know how to talk to nwomen?"nn"Why do you say that?" I asked curiously, after all we werensitting down on couches at the VIP section of a popularnHollywood night club.nn"They either don't know what to say or they're really creepy,"nshe continued. nn"Continue, this is interesting," I asked with sincere curiosity.nn"They try too hard to impress me with their job, car, or innsome other fashion. It's so played out."nn"Well," I asked, "What would your ideal man talk about?"nn"It's not so much what he talks about," Angelica continued. Shenwas hot and she knew it, but she was really down to earth, notnas rare a find in Los Angeles if you know where and how to nlook, but I digress. "It's important to me that he's comfortablenin his own skin and that he has his own mind. I don't wantna guy agreeing with me just for the sake of agreeing with me.nIf he knows how to be natural, unpretentious, and not tryingnto get down my pants, then I'll probably hear him out."nn"C'mon," I said, "Most men who talk to you just want to getninto your pants. But then there are guys like me who realizenthat a pretty face is really common around here. I like tonsee what women are made of."nn"You see, it's so easy to talk to you!" Angelica exclaimed.nn"That's because I'm not trying to get anything from you."nn If you want to learn how to talk to women then you shouldnpay very close attention to the conversation I just had withnAngelica. She gave us all real insight into what women arenlooking for when men walk up to them. But there's also a lotnshe left out and I'm going to fill in some of that gap. nnMost attractive women are attention seekers. They seek validation,nsome seek to have their egos strokes, and some of them actuallynwant to genuinely someone that they feel they can connect with.nIt's far easier than you think, but first you have to unlearnnwhat you have learned (I think I heard that in some moviensomewhere). nnThe problem most men have when talking to women is that they trynway too hard not to make mistakes. They don't want to say thenwrong thing. They don't want to make a wrong impression. Theynfear rejection. They believe that they don't know what to saynwhen it comes to women. None of this is true. The biggestnthing that gets inbetween men and women talking is what's goingnon between your left ear and your right ear.nnIf you walked up to a little kid and started talking to themnwould you be thinking any of these things? What about walkingnup to a friend? What about walking up to a 70 year old women?nIn your mind you view these things a harmless. You view themnas having equal or less social value than you do, so it's farneasier to approach them and start a conversation. Yet, if younsee a very good-looking woman, your tongue gets tied up and yournmind begins playing tricks on you.nnIt really is all in your head. Talking to women is as easy asntalking to a kid, your friend, or that nice senior citizen. nOnce I stopped buying into some of societies ridiculous beliefs,nsuch as a really attractive person is better than someone whonis not (who judges this anyway?) or that a stranger can actuallynreject you, then I started having less fear and taking more naction.nnA simple "hi" or "what's up?" can do wonders. Conversation isna learned skill. Just like walking, writing, or riding anbike. This is why any man can learn how to talk to women, nanywhere, anytime, and virtually any place. I picked up mynlast girlfriend at a gas station. The one before her I met onnan online dating website. And the one before her I met on thenside walk while walking my older sister's dog. All it tooknwas breaking the ice, acting natural, and not trying too hard:nn"Hey, I think my dog likes you...."nn"This is some tight weather, which way to the beach?"nn"Hey there, as you're pumping your gas I noticed that there'sna big white bird bomb on the top of your car, you should getnthat looked at (she giggles)...."nnThese openers are based on my personality. I just say what ncomes to mind. I know that if I talk to at least 25 womenna week, I'm going to get more conversations going. The morenconversations I get going, the more phone numbers I'm goingnto get. The more phone numbers I get, the more dates I'll ngo on. nnStart practicing those conversation skills with people thatnget paid to talk to you. A shopping mall is a perfect spotnfor this. You can go into department stores, food courts,nclothing stores for men, and walk up to the associates / nclerks / retail person / etc. and start chatting them up.nTalking to women is only as difficult as you make it. Lastly,nyou've got to practice. Make sure you do not invest any nreal emotional energy in any approach you make because thenperson doesn't know you. So by very definition they cannotn"reject" you because only people that know you and care aboutnyou can reject you. nnA stranger can only reject your advances and it's most likelynthat they weren't in a good mood anyway. So this shouldnmake it infinitely easier to start talking with more women.nWell, what are you waiting for?nnn