How To Use The "Cold Read" Technique To Approach And Flirt With Women

During my long career as a dating trainer, I have taught countless of dudes how to approach women in all types of situations. A lot of my students have been extremely successful. I've seen shy students who were terrified to try to talk to girls turn into "approach machines" who all of a sudden began to meet new women every day -- and got more phone numbers than they knew what to do with! I have actually seen very quiet students of mine, who were previously too anxious to talk to women and clueless about how to approach women, quickly evolve into "approach masters" who were able to meet new women every day (even just shopping at the mall!) and frequently score phone numbers, dates and even one-night stands. I'm talking about walking up to a stunner. A "perfect 10." You know, the kind of woman who, when she walks into a room, causes every guy in the surrounding area to stop and look. So is there a way to increase your chance of strong results with this kind of stunner?Well, the answer is actually quite simple: you're doing to make use of the exact same approach concepts that I tell my guys to use with any girl, but after you use one of my "transition" tactics to engage her in the conversation, are going to use two particular tactics -- Cold Reads and Teases -- so that her tremendous attractiveness won't even be an issue. So what are Cold Reads and Teases, precisely? Well, they're two very dominant manuevers that you should use when you flirt with women. Fundamentally, these are two of my favorite conversational "weapons." For now, the short definition is that Teases are playful things you say to women to "mess with them" a little bit, and plant the idea in their mind that you're NOT intimidated or super-impressed by them. If you tease a woman the correct way -- remember it's about being PLAYFUL, not repugnant -- you're treating her as you would treat an old buddy -- joking around, not taking things too seriously. When you're hanging out with someone you've known for a long time, you're naturally going to tease and joke around with that person. By using Teases with a scorching-hot stunner, in a strategic way, you are showing that you're not fazed by her attractiveness and you are relating to her as a normal person. This is the opposite of how most men behave around a super hot girl. This dude can't even carry on a normal conversation because he's so afraid of saying the WRONG thing and messing it up! Now, as for Cold Reads, these are really powerful. Basically, you "read" her and tell her something about herself -- as if you've got psychic powers and understand her on a deeper level. When you use an effective Cold Read, it makes you look like an extremely perceptive guy who "gets" her -- and this can create a powerful bond, very fast. But the really clever thing about Cold Reads is that they apply to virtually anyone. You're telling her something about herself that SOUNDS accurate, but the same statement would apply to just about anyone you used it on. Basically, after you make your approach and use a cool opener to begin the conversation -- and there are dozens of these in my dating guide for men -- you'll use a Transition tactic to move things onto the right topic. Then, you can start using Teases and Cold Reads: TEASE: "Y'know, Cindy, I think I got the wrong idea about you at first. I can tell there's more to you than meets the eye. It's just too bad you're not my type..." (then change the topic) COLD READ: "Y'know something Cindy, I can tell that a lot of people get the wrong idea about you when they first see you. You have this tough exterior, but it's because you've been hurt before by someone that you trusted, and you're cautious sometimes about meeting new people. But they don't realize what a sweet, sensitive person you really are underneath." This Cold Read works extremely well with really hot women because they are often self-conscious about how people perceive them. No woman wants to be seen as a shallow, hot "bimbo." These really scorching-hot girls can be very insecure, actually -- and they are often eager to be appreciated for deeper qualities beyond their looks, such as their personality, their sense of humor, hidden talents, and so on.) Honestly, it isn't difficult to learn how to approach women. Every time you combine these strategies with other effective conversational strategies, you have the formula for an interaction that will trigger all of her "attraction switches" and and make her genuinely interested and attracted in you. Getting her phone number will be guaranteed -- and where you take it from there is up to you. Throughout my years as a dating instructor, I have showed thousands of men how to approach women in every possible situation. A lot of my students have been exceptionally successful. I've seen shy students who were scared to approach girls turn into "approach machines" who suddenly began to meet new girls every day -- and got more phone numbers than they knew what to do with! It's been rewarding to watch extremely quiet students of mine, who were previously scared to talk to hot chicks and clueless about how to approach women, transform into "approach fearless approach experts" who could meet new women on a daily basis (even while simply shopping at the mall!) and regularly rack up digits, dates and even hook-ups the same night. However, a man's sense of "approach confidence" can really take a hit when he finds himself wanting to walk up and talk to an exceptionally striking stunner.I'm not talking about a run-of-the-mill female here; I'm talking about a stone-cold stunner. You know, the kind of babe who, when she walks into a room, causes every guy in the surrounding area to stop and look. So what's the most effective method for approaching this type of female? The answer to this, actually, is not that difficult: you use the same approach tactics that I suggest you use with any female, but after you use one of my "transition" tactics to engage her in the conversation, are going to use two special tactics -- Cold Reads and Teases -- so that her tremendous beauty won't even be an issue. So what are Cold Reads and Teases, precisely? Well, they're two very dominant techniques that you should use when you flirt with women. Really, these are a couple of my favorite conversational "weapons." For the purposes of this article, I'll just tell you real quick that Teases are things that you say to women in a playful way, that plant a very important idea in their minds: that you are NOT a predictable guy who is bowled over and taken aback by the way she looks. When you tease a hottie (the RIGHT way), you're framing the interaction as if you are already familar and comfortable with her, which prompts her to feel the same way with you. When you're hanging out with someone you've known for a long time, you're of course going to tease and joke around with that person. By using Teases with a scorching-hot stunner, in a strategic way, you are establishing that you're not fazed by her attractiveness and you are relating to her as a normal person. Of course, this is exactly the OPPOSITE of how the typical dude acts when he is talking to a gorgeous babe. The typical guy can't even conduct a fun, interesting conversation because he's so WORRIED about saying the wrong thing! Now, as for Cold Reads, these are really cool. Basically, you "read" her and tell her something about herself -- as if you've got psychic powers and understand her on a deeper level. When you use an effective Cold Read, it makes you look like an extremely perceptive guy who "gets" her -- and this can create a powerful bond, in a short amount of time. And the clever thing about an effective Cold Read statement is that they apply to virtually any woman. Whether you say it to your sister, or to a girl at the nightclub, she's going to nod her head and agree with your evaluation . Basically, after you make your approach and use a cool opener to launch the conversation -- and there are tons of these in my dating guide for men -- you'll use a Transition strategy to move things onto the right topic. Then, you can apply Teases and Cold Reads: Example of a Tease: "Cindy, I gotta say, I misjudged you at first. I can sense that there is a lot more to you than meets the eye...it's too bad you aren't my type." (Then, you change the subject and leave her wondering WHY you just said that...) And here's a Cold Read: "You know, Cindy, I'm sure that most people get the wrong idea about you when they first meet you. You have this tough exterior, but I know it's only because you've been hurt in the past by someone who you really trusted. Since then, you've been cautious about letting new people get close to you. But the funny thing is, they don't realize what a sweet, sincere, sensitive person you truly are." This Cold Read works extremely well with really beautiful girls because they are often self-conscious about how people perceive them. No woman wants to be seen as a shallow, hot "bimbo." These really sexy girls can be very insecure, actually -- and they are often looking to be appreciated for deeper qualities beyond their looks, such as their personality, their sense of humor, hidden talents, and so forth.) It really isn't difficult to learn how to approach women. When you bring together these tactics with other effective conversational strategies, you have the recipe for an interaction that will trigger all of her "attraction switches" and and make her genuinely interested and attracted in you. Scoring her phone number will be no problem at all -- and where you take it from there is up to you. During my years as a dating instructor, I have showed thousands of dudes how to approach women in every imaginable scenario. Many of these guys have been enormously successful. I've seen shy dudes who were scared to walk up to women turn into "approach machines" who all of a sudden began to meet new women on a daily basis -- and got more phone numbers than they knew what to do with! I have actually watched incredibly introverted students of mine, who were previously too anxious to talk to hot chicks and clueless about how to approach women, turn into "approach masters" who could meet new girls on a daily basis (even just walking down the street!) and regularly rack up phone numbers, dates and even one-night stands. But a guy's level of confidence can take a serious hit -- and that old "approach anxiety" can come creeping back in -- when he is faced with the mission of approaching an exceptionally gorgeous stunner. You know, the kind of female who, when she strolls into a room, causes every guy in the vicinity to stop and look. What's the best way to approach a hottie like THAT?The answer, in actuality, is very easy: you use the same approach strategies that I suggest you use with any girl, but soon after you use one of my "bridging" tactics to get her engaged in the interaction with you, are going to use two special moves -- Cold Reads and Teases -- so that her tremendous good looks won't even be an issue. So what are Cold Reads and Teases, exactly? Well, they're two very powerful moves that you should use when you flirt with women. Essentially, these are a couple of my favorite conversational "weapons." For right now, the short answer is that Teases are playful things you say to girls to "mess with them" a little bit, and establish that you're NOT intimidated or super-impressed by them. If you tease a woman the correct way -- remember it's about being PLAYFUL, not loathsome -- you're treating her as you would act towards an old friend -- joking around, not taking things too seriously. You act this way around old friends because you are comfortable with them. And so, when you tease a scorching-hot stunner, you're planting the seed in her mind that you are totally at ease with her. She doesn't "faze" you. Of course, this is exactly the OPPOSITE of how the average guy acts when he is talking to a gorgeous babe. This guy can't even carry on a normal conversation because he's so terrified of saying the WRONG thing and messing it up! Now, as for Cold Reads, these are really cool. Basically, you "read" her and tell her something about herself -- as if you've got psychic powers and understand her on a deeper level. When you use an effective Cold Read, it makes you look like an extremely perceptive guy who "gets" her -- and this can create a powerful bond, very fast. But the really clever thing about Cold Reads is that they apply to virtually anyone. You're telling her something about herself that SOUNDS profound, but the same statement would apply to just about anyone you used it on. So after you approach a woman and use an effective opener to kick off the conversation -- and there are many of of these in my book -- you'll use a Transition tactic to move things onto the right theme. Then, you can use Teases and Cold Reads: Example of a Tease: "Cindy, I gotta say, I misjudged you at first. I can sense that there is a lot more to you than meets the eye...it's too bad you aren't my type." (Then, you change the subject and leave her wondering WHY you just said that...) And here's a Cold Read: "You know, Cindy, I'm sure that most people get the wrong idea about you when they see you for the first time. You have this tough exterior, but I know it's only because you've been hurt in the past by someone who you really trusted. Since then, you've been cautious about letting new people get close to you. But the funny thing is, they don't realize what a sensitive, sweet person you truly are." This Cold Read works exceptionally well with really beautiful women because they are often self-conscious about how people perceive them. No woman wants to be seen as a shallow, hot "bimbo." These really hot women can be very insecure, actually -- and they are often eager to be appreciated for deeper qualities beyond their looks, such as their personality, their sense of humor, hidden talents, etc.) Honestly, it isn't difficult to learn how to approach a woman. Every time you bring together these strategies with other effective conversational methods, you have the blueprint for an interaction that will set off all of her "attraction buttons" and drive up her interest and curiosity. Scoring her phone number will be no problem at all -- and from that point on, you'll be in charge of steering this wherever you want it to go.