If You Want To Get Your Life Together But Frequently Feel Tired and Frustrated

If you want to get your life together but frequently feel tired and frustrated with life and yourself and you work hard but seem to get nowhere, but also feel guilty that you should just be grateful for what you have but don’t feel you have the control or ability to change anything or even where to start, then this is for you!rnWhen a New Year presents the ideal opportunity to make changes in your life then you should take it especially if you have strong feelings. Not knowing what to do shouldn’t stop you, neither should friends, family or a fear of control or ability. We often hold ourselves to ransom over goals at this time of year like losing weight which only adds to the conflicting pressures we feel from society to either have it all or get over ourselves and be grateful. No matter what you think you should or shouldn’t do, all that really matters is what you want from life.rnChanging your life for the better is only a matter of taking stock so you can begin to see the wood for the trees and make your first move in the right direction. Before I go in to how to do that I want to let you into a little known secret; when we make goals or New Year resolutions we believe that achieving them will change our lives and therefore make us happier, but achievement isn’t the key. Over the years I have offered countless advice on how best to set goals and resolutions that stick and in my experience the best way of being happier whilst improving your life actually begins with the act of letting go. rnStart by letting go of anything you don’t want to hold on to anymore like fear, anger, resentment, disappointment, frustration. This will liberate you from unnecessary pressure. Once you have freed yourself up, even if it’s just a little, you will be able to see more clearly what you really want, how it will make you happy and how you go about getting it.rnDon’t add to the pressure you already feel of being a good Mum, a model wife, great friend and all round has-it-together woman of the world. Take time to reflect upon who you are now, who you want to be and what it will give you. Knowing this is where true happiness lies. Then you can move forward with your life with a stronger sense of control feeling more self assured and therefore less stressed and vulnerable. Enjoy letting go to make room for something better.