Miracles; How To See Them

Do you believe in miracles? Do you think of a miracle as something spectacular that needs to happen?

When I think of a miracle I think of when things that should’ve been challenging and painful, become effortless. I discovered this through surrender. Surrender becomes imperative when going through a painful divorce or separation. It was my saving grace during the most painful times for me.

When you surrender it’s amazing how everything seems to fall into place.

Many times in our life we try to have the ultimate control. Then things happen which take our control away. In those moments we can either fight to get control back or surrender to whatever life will bring to us.

What I’ve found when surrendering has been nothing short of a miracle.

About a year ago I had a fluky gear problem with my car. The gears forgot how to work and I needed to bring it to the mechanic to get it fixed immediately. When I got to the mechanic I explained to the man greeting me that my car needed the emergency break in order for it to not go anywhere. The man nodded his head and coaxed me out of the car. I went in to the office to fill out the paper work and five minutes later heard a loud crash. I walked out of the office and found my car in between the garage door and the outdoors.

The owner of the store was dumbfounded and pulled me aside. He told me to get some breakfast so he can assess the damage. All around me men were screaming and running around in shock. I stood there in peace, open to whatever would happen. I went next door at a diner and waited for what would happen next.

Fifteen minutes later the owner called me and asked me to come back to the office. When I returned he explained to me that there was a lot of body damage to my car. Since they were at fault he would have it fixed as well as fixing the gears at his costs.

They got me a rental which was fully paid for and sent me on my way.

The project took several months to fix, since they had to go through their insurance, but all along I had their rental car.

During this time I was moving to Califo
ia. My plan was to begin my move without my car and then come back for it a few months later to drive it across the country. I was unsure as to where to leave it till my return.

The time came for me to go to Califo
ia and I still did not have my car back. I called the mechanic up and explained to him my situation. I asked him, since he was not done with the car if it would be alright for him to store my car in his garage until I return a few months later? He said no problem.

The blessings to this situation were everywhere. My initial fear as to how much it would cost to fix the gears were wiped out when they damaged the body of my car, not just fixing that but fixing the gears for free. I was amazed and thrilled. I also had a safe car to drive with no cost up until I moved to Califo
ia. My storage issue was solved as well. For if they wouldn’t of damaged my car, I might’ve had no where to leave it.

How perfect was that?

When going through my divorce, miracles like that were everywhere I looked. An apartment out of nowhere showed up for me in perfect timing. Jobs seemed to come out of the sky and a helping hand seemed to show up just as I needed it. It was because I knew that I’ll be taken care of. Leaving the familiarity of my life, despite the pain and trauma was the scariest thing for me, but it was my faith and trust I was cared for that led me just to that experience.

Going through any transition brings up a lot of fear. Leaving abuse can be devastating. Your self esteem is already down in the gutter and you might feel that there’s nothing else out there.

Begin by looking for miracles. Notice how you feel when you are alone. Notice how you feel when you are outside, away from the abuse. This alone can give you the hope and push to continue to move forward.

Most importantly practice surrender. There’s a lot of unknowns that will be happening to you. You won’t be able to control everything. Know that and be open to that. Stay present and surrender to what is. That will be your greatest tool.