Principles of Being a Love Magnet(TM), Part II

Working Definition: Love magnet--a single person able to attract the right partner effortlessly and able to form a gratifying, long-term relationship. Also, a person in a relationship who is able to attract his or her partner's love and affection effortlessly.

Attracting and getting love does not have to be a struggle. Really. You can become the kind of person who has a particular kind of an aura, a particular kind of a light that draws love to you. The more light you have, the easier love comes to you. You can become a love magnet.

The first 10 principles of being a love magnet were:
1. Take care of yourself, first.
2. Set strong boundaries.
3. Complete your past.
4. Stop being angry.
5. Make integrity a priority.
6. Step over nothing.
7. Be fearless.
8. Be generous and kind, with no strings.
9. Have compassion.
10. Be grateful.

Here is the second set of 10 principles of being a love magnet. Embodying these, becoming these, you will attract the love you want, effortlessly.

1. Say "No" a lot.
Say no when you should say yes. Say no when you are afraid you will hurt others' feelings. Say no when you would rather be nice. Saying no will show you that you matter. And when you matter, you shine.

2. Trust yourself.
Trust your feelings, your thoughts, your gut. Trust yourself more than you trust anyone else--only you know you that well. Trusting yourself brings up your self-esteem, which makes you very attractive.

3. Value yourself highly.
Don't settle for anything; meaning, want and work towards getting the best of treatment, the best of life, the best of love. You are valuable and precious. Treat yourself as such and others will, too.

4. Be everything you want.
Be everything you want your partner to be. And be everything you want to be, for you. This makes it possible for your right partner to be drawn to you and gives you a wonderful, satisfying life.

5. Express yourself.
Express your creativity. Express your brilliance. Express your passion. Express your feelings. Give voice to the song inside you. The more self-expressed you are, the better you will feel about yourself and life.

6. Live your best life.
Do not wait to have a partner to live the life you want to live. Do not waste your time making excuses as to why you are not living the life you want. What can be more attractive than a happy, fulfilled person?

7. Shine, from the inside.
Different things make different people shine. However, what's guaranteed to give you a glow is deeply satisfying activity or endeavor. What do you get involved in that's deeply satisfying?

8. Open your heart.
Be open to relationships of all kinds, connect with people for the purpose of connection, be truly interested. Very attractive.

9. Learn to listen.
Learn to listen to what people are saying instead of what you think they are saying. The way to do this is to stop worrying about what you will say in response or how what is being said will affect you. If you learn to listen, you will be a sought after person.

10. Learn to communicate.
Learn how to gently speak your mind. Learn how to say what you need to say even when you are terrified, or when you think no one will agree, or even if you think you will be judged. The more you speak your mind and heart, the better you will feel about yourself.

Look for Part III of this article in the upcoming weeks.

Your Relationship Coach, Rinatta Paries www.WhatItTakes.com

This article was originally published by Coach Rinatta Paries in *The Relationship Coach Newsletter*, a weekly e-zine for people who want fulfilling relationships. For singles, the newsletter will help you attract your Mr. or Ms. Right. If you're in a relationship, you will learn to create more closeness and intimacy with your mate. To subscribe, go to www.WhatItTakes.com nnnn