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"Working With Resistance" Some Thoughts On Healing

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This past week, I had the opportunity to work with several new clients who were each feeling intense emotion suffering. The personal situation, and nature of their feelings were quite different for each of them, however there was one common experience that all shared.

They were all greatly "resisting" that personal situation that brought them to be working with me. By resisting I mean that they were each putting a lot of emotional energy in saying "no, no, no, I do not want this situation", they were putting a lot of energy in "trying to push it away".

You may say to me "well, of course, it's only natural to push away something you don't want" and you would be right. Resistance to an unwanted experience IS a natural reaction, though it is one that we would be much better served without. You see, in my work and in my life, I've come to realize that........ almost ALL suffering is caused by our resistance.

Let me say that again, almost ALL suffering is caused by resistance!!! It is NOT caused by the actual situation itself. I think this is wonderful news! What it means is, that if we could eliminate our resistance to what is going on in our life, we could also eliminate our emotional suffering.

Now, of course, I'm not suggesting that we go blithely through life saying that whatever happens to us is just fine. I believe we need to take charge of our experiences. We need to recognize that we are totally responsible for what happens in our life. However, when something seemingly "bad" happens to us, the quickest and most direct route to moving through it is acknowledging it and accepting it. Surrendering to it!!! Yes, it happened. Yes, maybe I created it. What do I need to learn from this? And yes, it is now time to move on!

It is actually quite amazing what this simple shift in perspective can accomplish. I see it time and again. In my emotional freedom work with my individual clients, I support them in quickly, and painlessly, dissolving their resistance. And the results are quite remarkable.

What are you resisting??? Are you willing to make that shift to accepting and surrendering to it? Try it and see what happens! You may be amazed.

If you are interested in learning more about how my work can support you in this, consider taking one of my free introductory teleclasses or call for a free consultation, 1-800-653-4465.
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Food For Thought

"What is essential is invisible to the eye; only with the heart can one see rightly."
---from The Little Prince, by Saint-Exupery

"Most of us are in touch with our intuition whether we know it or not, but we're usually in the habit of doubting or contradicting it so automatically that we don't even know it has spoken. The first step is to pay more attention to what you feel inside, to the inner dialogue that goes on within you."
---Shakti Gawain, Living in the Light

"We must release the old to make room for the new."
---Alan Cohen, The Dragon Doesn't Live Here
Anymore

The above article is from "The Emotional Freedom & Healing News", a free bi-monthly newsletter by Richard Ross. To subscribe, or for more information on the work of Richard Ross: Phone: 1-800-653-4465 or 541-535-3450, write mailto:emotionalfreedom@richardross.com , or visit www.emotionalfreedom.com This article may be freely distributed to any media, as long as the above paragraph is appears at the end.

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Richard Ross:
Transformational Coach, CoachU Graduate, ICF, developer of "Emotional Freedom & Healing" modalities. Spiritual counselor, teacher, Avatar Master, personal growth facilitator 15+ years. Certified Tapas Acupressure Technique (TAT) Trainer, Nationally Certified Bodyworker, Body-Centered Therapist (Phoenix Rising).

I have an ongoing coaching practice and a specialty in emotional freedom and healing. I do individual & group sessions with clients from across the country and abroad, who want to move past, fears, issues, and any limiting beliefs that are keeping them from becoming a full expression of who they are.

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