THE TOP 10 WAYS TO RECOVER FROM A LOVE TRAUMA SYNDROME

n* A psychological condition that develops in response to a damaged or failed love relationship.

1. Recognize that romantic breakups can be traumatic, and that your feeling devastated -- even for a long time -- is nothing to be ashamed of.

2. Do Not Wallow. Commit to an active stance -- exercise, go to museums, movies, try to have fun.

3. "Fake it till you make it."

4. Accept the wound -- it will not kill you. Remember that Love Trauma Syndrome is a brain condition that takes time to heal.

5. Stop being upset about being so upset -- it's OK that you're upset.

6. Search for what you can learn from the experience -- pull some victory from the defeat.

7. Resist the "psychological gravity" of your brain that generates urges to punish and seek revenge.

8. Do not withdraw from others -- maintain contacts with friends, relatives, acquaintances. Remain socially involved. Let some of them know that you're suffering.

9. Listen to popular music -- e.g., the radio is filled with songs that touch on almost every nuance of love trauma. Such "music therapy" can be cathartic and diminish your sense of isolation.

10. Live in the present. Take up a recreational sport, such as biking or skiing, that requires your full attention, and is able to shift your attention from your misery. But don't do anything potentially dangerous -- remember that you might be more accident prone when you're suffering from Love Trauma Syndrome. Be careful.

If your depression and upset are pervasive, and you're exhausted but still can't sleep, do not hesitate to seek help from a trained professional. Love Trauma Syndrome can be more serious than many people realize.