Secrets to Female Leadership: Top 3 Tips How NOT To Stand Out In a Crowd

Influence Expert, Dr. Karen Keller, addresses conce
s for women who want to excel in social or professional situations.

According to Keller, “One of the most common things women tell me is how hard it is to get noticed . . . for the right reasons. Not for your feminine ‘assets’, but for who you really are and how you feel — your core being.”

She adds, “To achieve this, you first have to accept you are the brightest, sassiest and most fun person in the room. Once your realize this, it will transpire from inside out and will be conveyed in how you carry yourself. And this presence will captivate people at first glance. Ask yourself: Do I get noticed? If the answer is NO, then there are a few things you may be doing to blend into that lovely wallpaper.”

The ‘top 3’ social culprits and success tips include:

Not talking. Don’t talk to anyone. All people especially strangers are off limits. At an event stay in your seat, keep your head down and NEVER make eye contact.Crowd “Success” tip: Mingle. Look people in the eye with a ‘Hi – I want to meet you” message in your eyes. Put out your hand ready to greet and make contact in a physical sense.
Believing that good things come to those who wait. Rubbish. Nothing good ever came to someone who sat there waiting.Crowd “Success” tip: Get up off your bum and make your way. Where? Into the conversation. The crowd. The brainstorming session. The boss’s office. Forge ahead and walk like Moses through the Red Sea.
Leaving your confidence at home. Slump your shoulders. Hang your head and hide behind anything you can find. Pay more attention to the food than the people. Let everyone in the room know you don’t believe you are worth it, can’t hold a conversation, and are undeserving of attention.Crowd “Success” tip: Hold your head high. Straighten your shoulders. Walk into the room, stop, look the room over and decide who you want to share yourself with. There’s no time to hover. Just assume the position, point and process.
Keller concluded, “Women shouldn’t feel guilty or shy about being who they are. It’s important to be real, refined and personable. It’s also important to have a subtle air of confidence and strength. These feelings come from within before a woman can believe it and exude it. It takes practice to be comfortable within one’s own skin in social settings, but the rewards are worth it!”