Suffering From Negative Head-Talk?

Nearly everyone does battle with that pesky voice of nself-judgment and sabotaging put-downs that chatters naway in our heads. n nAnd, in response to a recent teleseminar we gave titled n“The Fear of Being Fabulous” we received a request nfrom a participant who said:n n“I would love to hear how you remove the head talk that keeps nyou from being fabulous. I can get so far and then I'm stopped nby my head talk.”n nHere’s our answer . . . n nFirst, you’ll know it’s Head-Talk by the repetitive, nagging attack on who you are. Your self-respect and self-esteem can end up in the toilet. And you can end up on the edge of . . . well, for us it’s sometimes been the pothole from hell. n nOn the other hand, if you only hear a single reminder or even na reprimand, that’s usually your wisdom giving you a heads-up nto watch out or correct for behavior that’s not in your best interest. n nBut Negative Head-Talk is relentless once it gets going. nIts job is to successfully bring you down and remind you of nyour “proper” place. n nWhat’s “proper” about being put down? n nWell, you weren’t born turning yourself into a brick of nSwiss cheese, with more holes than substance. Right? n nSomewhere along your life, probably earlier than later, nyou were told negative stuff about who you are and nwhat you could accomplish and what you could have and nwho you could be . . . n nEven if you cannot now remember what it was or who said it. n nBecause if that hadn’t happened, there wouldn’t be any nNegative Scripts in your noggin’ that involuntarily blast naway at you as Negative Self-Talk. n nSo, what to do when that destructive force turns on you and nfills your head with lies . . . n n1) Know they are lies. n n2) Remember We’re On Your Side and we told you they’re lies. n n3) Take yourself back to where they came from originally, and see if you can remember who told you those lies, when, and what for . . . n n4) Then notice how, when that Negative Head-Talk takes over, you are still in allegiance to that person and that part of your history. n n5) Know that even after you’ve got hold of its source, when the nNegative Self-Talk yammers at you you’ll be tempted to side nwith IT instead of with YOU. n n6) So that’s when you must practice taking your own side, nsomething you couldn’t do when you were younger. But you nmust practice doing it now. n n7) Make the commitment to break your allegiance. This won’tnhappen without fear, pain, and sorrow. And there will be a sense nof loss. That’s expected and normal.n n8) Know that this need to detach from the past is urgent. Because that’s the key to your well-being and a fabulous future.n n9) Stay away from blame. That just keeps you stuck to the past.nAnd that’s just another, less obvious form of your allegiance. n n10) Make the commitment to side with your desire. It’s your ndesire that will carve out and light the path to the Positive nHead-Talk that you need as your powerful guide and ally.n nNow, every time your Negative Head-Talk threatens, you have nyour own internal arsenal to combat and overcome its power to ntrash your well-being. With practice you’ll see that that voice nbecomes weaker and less active. n nAnd you will enjoy the freedom to be fabulously alive and nloving on your own terms. nnJudith Sherven and Jim Sniechowski, producers of the "Bridging Heart and Marketing" Internet marketing conferences for the soft sell community invite you to grow your business by getting their nbonus audio "How To Build Your Soft Sell Marketing Platform." Just go to: http://www.bridgingheartandmarketing.com/platformbonusn