Look Into My Eyes

An eye can threaten like a loaded and levelled gun, or it can insult like hissing orkicking; or, in its altered mood, by beams of kindness, it can make the heart dance forjoy. - Ralph Waldo Emerso

The face is the mirror of the mind, and eyes without speaking confess the secrets ofthe heart. - Saint Jerome

Let's talk a little bit about the eyes.

The eyes are quite amazing! Very few things surpass the importance of our eyes whenengaged in social interaction... especially with those gorgeous women we love to feastthem upon.

I'm not talking about eye contact in this article. Or the way we use our eyes to connectand disconnect, with others. I'm talking about the eyes themselves...specifically the pupils of your eyes.

Three EXTREMELY IMPORTANT things to understand right up front:
-- The pupils of our eyes dilate and grow larger when we see someone we're attracted to.
-- Larger, dilated pupils are seen as more attractive than smaller, contracted pupils.
-- We like those who like us.

Okay...

Whenever we see someone we like, the pupils of our eyes dilate and grow larger. It'salmost as if our eyes are trying to see as much of this person as possible. This is aninvoluntary and uncontrollable physiological response.

Thus, you can often tell if a woman is attracted to you by observing her pupils, andnoting whether they expand or contract (or maybe do nothing) when she looks at you. nn(Note: contracting would not be good for you... as it likely means she not only is notattracted to you, but actively dislikes you. Sorry about that.)

I say, "often tell," because sometimes the environment can interfere with the"psychological" responses of our pupils. If you're outside on a bright sunnyday, it may be difficult for even your magnificence to dilate her pupils. Similarly, ifyou're together in a dimly lit room, her pupils are probably going to be dilated no matterhow much she despises you.

One other thing to keep in mind is her base level, or natural pupil size. This variessomewhat from person to person. Some people have larger pupils and some have smallerpupils. So to effectively judge "your" effect on her, you're going to have tokeep in mind her base level and judge the "change" when she gazes longingly (youhope) in your direction.

Please try to be inconspicuous about this. Do NOT tell her what you're doing. If she hadany idea it would make her very uncomfortable.

On the other hand, keep in mind that if gorgeous girl you've been checking out knows herpupil physiology, she already "knows" you're attracted to her. She can see it inyour eyes. And, short of wearing sunglasses or avoiding all eye contact, there's not muchyou can do about it.

But I wouldn't worry about this too much. There's very little chance that your averagelady is going to understand this particular psycho-physiological response. After all, sheprobably doesn't subscribe to The Don Juan Newsletter like you do. (YOU LUCKY DOG, YOU!)

The second thing to keep in mind is that larger, dilated pupils are considered morephysically attractive (and more friendly) than are smaller, contracted pupils.

For example, studies with photographs have shown that attractiveness increases as pupilsize increases. Likewise, if the researchers altered the pupil sizes in the photographs tomake them smaller, they could decrease the attractiveness of the individuals in thephotos.

We're talking about the SAME target photos here. Increasing or decreasing the pupil sizesof the same photos and noting the perceived level of attractiveness as rated by thesubjects. We're not comparing different people with different pupil sizes and concludingthat those with larger pupils are seen as more attractive than those with smaller pupils.Obviously, there are a lot of other variables to consider when comparing differentindividuals.

Ever heard of the Belladonna plant?

Belladonna is Italian for "beautiful lady" and was frequently used by 16thcentury women to give their eyes a sexy and dreamy look (by dilating the pupils).

An important point to keep in mind is that these pupil attractiveness effects operate in a"subconscious" fashion. The people in the experiments know they like the photoswith the dilated pupils better, but they don't know exactly why. The person just seems"more handsome" or "prettier" or "friendlier" somehow. Theydo not realize the pupils have been altered physically by the researchers.

Thus, ideally, you would like for your pupils to be as large as possible when gazing atwomen you're attracted to (making you more attractive). And luckily, as mentioned in thefirst part of this article, that is exactly what happens. (Cool, huh?)

You see a beautiful girl. Your pupils dilate. The large pupils cause her to see you asmore attractive than she otherwise might. Your responses are automatic. Her responses aresubconscious. Works out pretty well doesn't it?

Keep in mind that it works the other way as well. If a girl is attracted to you her pupilswill dilate when she's looking at you. As a result, you will see her as being moreattractive than you might otherwise think her to be. Again, both reactions are automaticand usually subconscious.

The third major point discussed in this article is that we like those who like us.

We are almost always attracted to those who are attracted to us. Why? Could be manypossible reasons for this. But probably the main reason is because when another personlikes us, it makes us feel good about ourselves. It gives us an ego boost and increasesour self-esteem and self-confidence.

Like it or not, we often judge ourselves by other people's reactions to us. If others seemto like us, then we feel good about ourselves. If others don't seem to like us, then wemay feel bad about ourselves. Not always, but much of the time.

Given this principle of reciprocal liking, we now have a logical explanation to explainthe attractiveness effects described above.

When you look at a girl you're attracted to, your pupils dilate. Subconsciously, shenotices your dilated pupils and concludes that you like her and are attracted to her.Since people who like her give her an ego boost and make her feel good about herself, shebecomes more attracted to you than she might be otherwise. Does this make sense?

So remember...

"If you want someone to like you, then like them."

This simple principle has been known for ages. Yet it's amazing how few people reallyunderstand it or practice it. And how dearly this lack of understanding costs them.

Now that we understand the three points discussed above, the question becomes, "Howcan we use this information to enrich our lives by making ourselves more attractive towomen?"

I'll go over a few possible scenarios, but use your imagination. There are dozens of waysto use the knowledge you now possess to add love, romance, and excitement to your life.

Ever wonder why a candlelit dinner with wine is considered so romantic? Think about it.The dim light dilates the pupils of both individuals, making them both more attractive toone another than they usually are (not to mention hiding minor physical flaws). And thealcohol in the wine accentuates the pupil dilation even more.

Yes, alcohol dilates the pupils. It also promotes relaxation and reduces inhibitions. It'sdefinitely your friend on a date. But be careful not to abuse the alcohol. A little isromantic. A lot becomes unpredictable and can wind up ruining the evening.

Another tip you may find helpful: remember to gaze into the eyes of that beautiful ladyyou're interested in. You're attracted to her. Your pupils dilate. She subconciouslyrecognizes your attraction. She likes those wise individuals who like her. She feels good.She starts to like you.

And all you've done is look into her beautiful eyes. You haven't really said or"risked" anything. Seems pretty simple doesn't it?

(Don't be surprised if she tells her girlfriends "what beautiful eyes" youhave.)

I know. I know. You're shy. You usually go to extremes in order to avoid eye contact...especially with women you're attracted to. You look down. You look away. You look anywherebut into "the eyes."

You'd rather die than let her know you're attracted to her. You want her to be attractedto you first. Once you're sure she's attracted to you, then maybe you'll let on a littlethat you're attracted to her as well.

BIG MISTAKE!

Remember, if you want someone to like you, like them. And let them know you like them.Look into her eyes and smile. Force yourself to... just for a couple seconds every now andthen.

I'm not talking about staring into her eyes until the sweat starts popping from her brow.Staring will simply make her feel uncomfortable.

Just add a little casual eye contact into your conversations with her. And smile.Remember, she will come to like you BECAUSE you like her.

Another example...

Ever go to bars? Ever notice how beautiful the women in bars look?

Yes, the women definitely dress to impress. But also, bars are usually dimly lit with alcohol consumption the norm. Dilated pupils and reduced inhibitions everywhere you look.

And do these beautiful ladies get even more beautiful at closing time? Ever heard that? It could be, of course, that you're more desperate at closing time (or too drunk to tell thedifference).

It's also very likely that as the evening winds along and the women drink more and more,that they actually do get more beautiful. Their pupils become more and more dilated giving their eyes that sexy, dreamy look (remember Belladonna?).

Think about the *secrets* I've just revealed to you. And be sure to ACT upon what you KNOW.