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You want to know how to get your ex back, right? I feel ya. Getting dumped rnis one of the worst things a guy can go through.
Recently I saw a life stress ranking list, and having an intimate rnrelationship end was actually listed as more stressful than rnserving a jail term. So if you're ready to turn it around no rnmatter how bad she dumped you, let's get going...
Well, below you find the most basic four steps on how to get your ex back. So read on carefully!
The first step to getting your ex back is to re-establish your rnvalue. This is important because by far the most common mistake a rnguy makes at the end of a relationship is to become needy. He rnpractically gets on his hands and knees and begs his woman to rntake him back, and unfortunately this has the exact opposite rneffect of pushing her away.
It's simple human psychology, understood by any competent rnmarketer or salesman: if something is in-demand and you have to rnwork for it, you end up valuing it more. And unfortunately, when rnyou become the crying man, pleading for your woman to take you rnback, she doesn't exactly have to work for you.
You'll have the best success, then, by re-establishing your rnvalue right away by sending your ex-girlfriend a handwritten rncut-off note.
Simply put, you tell her that you're going to give her time and rnspace apart from you, you agree with the break up, and you're rngoing to cut off communication with her for awhile so that both rnof you can have that healthy distance.
You end the note by saying that something exciting has happened rnin your life and you need to tell her about it sometime. This is rnextremely effective because it appeals to your ex's sense of rncuriosity, which is the strongest human emotion there is.
Later when it comes time to re-initiate communication with your rnex, she will be unable to resist speaking with you again.
(By the way, my idea of a cut-off note works so well that I've rnseen another relationship "guru" steal it and claim it as his rnown.)
The second step to getting your ex back is to build your attractiveness. I've identified rn11 traits that women are attracted to, which I call the
"Attraction Dials." Your turn the dials, and you turn up the rndesire a woman has for you.
These Attraction Dials needed to get your ex back are as follows:
1. Being a Leader -- You talk and others (especially other rnmen) listen.
2. Masculine Good Looks -- Women use the word "cute," "handsome," rnor even "hot" to describe you. They compliment you on various rnaspects of how you're put together such as "nice shirt!".
3. Physical Health and Strength -- You're in shape.
4. Confidence -- You move through life with self-assurance, rnwithout fear of others judging you.
5. Being Happy and Non-Needy -- You have no need to pressure the rnwoman or to try to control her behavior.
6. Having Other Women Interested in You -- If a woman knows she's rngot competition to win you, then you look that much more appealing rnin her eyes.
7. Being Popular -- You have a large network of people you know.
8. Being Interesting, Intriguing, Fun and a Captivating -- You rnbring a huge relief to a woman's boring life.
9. Being Assertive -- You can protect those around you.
10. Making Her Laugh -- If a woman is laughing at what you say, it rnis psychologically impossible for her to dislike you.
11. Having Drive -- You're ambitious and have passions you're rnpursuing
Step three is to identify the mistakes you made previously in the rnrelationship and learn from them so that when you have the rnrelationship re-run, you and your woman will stay together.
After all, it isn't any more fun being dumped a second time!
I'm drastically over-simplifying here, but the elements of a rnsuccessful relationship are:
1. You're a man who is generally dominant rather than wish-washy, rnconfident in himself, and an alpha male.
2. You give your woman positive emotions.
3. Emotionally, she needs you more than you need her. (You can rnstand on your own two feet and don't need her to be your rnpsychologist or mother-figure.)
4. You have frequent and pleasurable physical relations with her.
Step four to getting your ex back is to re-initiate communication with your woman after a rnfull 21 days of keeping her 100% cut off from you. Then you get rnher to hang out with you so you can re-attract her.
In order to be able to meet with her, make sure to let her know rnthat you're totally fine with the break up and just want to be rnfriends at this point. Be totally nonchalant and cool. You want rnher to wonder what's changed and what's going on with you.
Then when the two of you hang out, you turn her Attraction Dialsrnand completely astound her and sweep her off her feet.
That's how you get your ex back in your life...Done!