When little people go red with rage!

A child’s aggressive or bad behaviour can sometimes make it difficult for parents/carers to manage in a positive manner. We try hard to keep our anger in control but we are human beings, we make mistakes and sometimes we run out of patience! Here are a few things that might help us cope positively with a child being difficult… • As soon as you think your child’s behaviour is beginning to get aggressive, why not divert them into an interesting or positive activity. • It might help if we make simple house rules of what is acceptable and what isn't! We should then discuss these rules with our children so they are clear as to what is acceptable and what isn’t. Maintaining this line consistently will let your child know you and the rules are serious. • If a rule is broken, we can discipline them with using a time out for the number of minutes of their age or keep them away from the toy they like playing with for a period of time. The point is for them to see that their unacceptable behaviour has unpleasant consequences for them. • Children are very good observers and quick learners. They mirror their parents’ behaviour, so if you fail to control your temper your child is likely to copy you. They will learn to lose temper when something is not acceptable. So without getting angry we should apply the above time out method and give time to ourselves to calm down. • We should also not hit or smack our child as research has shown that this does not help our child, but might do more damage. • If for any reason we feel very angry, we should just leave the room and cool off. We should never stay in the same room as our children when we cannot control our emotions. May it be our tears or our anger! Our emotions may also play a very important role in our children’s development. • As adults we may feel stressed or restless for several reasons and so may our children. But if we know a way to calm ourselves down, then why not practice that with our children! Meditation is a proven method to keep one calm and in control of emotions. We can practice it with our children for 5 minutes every day! At times it is difficult to fulfil a child’s ever-growing demands with the challenges of work and other commitments, but if we can spare a few minutes of our time for the calmness of their minds, it could well benefit their development and teach them a life skill for the long term. INSPIRATIONAL QUOTE:rnGive your stress wings and let it fly away. ~ Carin Hartness By,rnKidz4Mation