Are you WISHING, or WANTING?

Many of us get caught up in wishing for things to happen in our lives. We say, "It would be nice if? or "I wish I could? A wish is passive, and it has a "maybe someday" quality about it: Someday I'll do work I love, or improve my finances, or spend a summer in Italy. There's no real commitment and no clear picture of what it would take to make it happen.

While we're busy wishing we often end up settling for what just "shows up" in our lives.

Instead of wishing, we must say, "I WANT this? Switching to wanting something says you intend to have it - that it's possible, and that you can make it happen. You can clearly see the outcome. In fact, the SUREST way to reach your goals is to have a CRYSTAL CLEAR vision of what you want.

Here's an example. I used to think "it would be nice" to be a freelance writer. I toyed with the idea for years, but beyond the enticing image of my first book signing, I couldn't fully SEE myself as a writer. There were too many holes in my vision. I needed to know more about how to get published, and also define what I would be passionately writing about.

When I finally decided to fill in these holes by going to workshops and connecting with other writers, I started creating a much richer and believable vision of myself as a paid writer. This vision was a powerful tool that kept me focused and motivated, especially when obstacles appeared. Before I knew it, I was depositing a check for my first freelance article.

Following this desire to write, has helped me to become more of who I am. It has also led to many other exciting discoveries about how I truly want to live my life, including becoming a personal coach.

I invite you to get off the hectic treadmill of your life for a moment, and tune in to what you've been longing for. Your longings tell you who you really are, and what makes you come alive. They're previews of life's coming attractions. Go from wishing to WANTING by crafting a vision that's too irresistible to ignore. See yourself in the outcome by imagining it vividly and intensely, with as many emotions and feelings as possible.

If any part of your vision is unclear, take some action to fill in the holes by taking a class, learning a new skill, or talking with people who have done what you want to do.

Write your vision down, and you'll have a tool for directing your energy towards creating what you really want in your life.

Take Action:
Go to http://www.bwcoaching.com/IdealDay_article.htm and design your own vision of an Ideal Day. My clients LOVE this! They refer back to it often to stay inspired, check progress, and add more details.

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Barbra White, MBA, Success Coachnwww.bwcoaching.com nnn