Your Sex Life Problem? Stress...

...we tell you how to resolve it.nnIt's one of the most maddening — and increasingly common — aspects of modern life: You're attracted to your partner but you (or he) is so stressed out and pressed for time that sex is practically nonexistent.nnSo many people get a new boyfriend/girlfriend, they stay sexually active for some month, and than thay do it so infrequently that he or she doesn't know if they can stand it.n There are very real physiological reasons that chronic stress — from a crunch time at work to a family crisis — can act like a cold shower. n The brain is like a computer,"says Andres Sanchez, Ph.D" It can only do one thing at a time." In other words, if you're obsessed with solving a problem or worrying, you're not going to be focused on procreation or recreation. During tense times, the body is primed for survival, not for making love. Stress doesn't have to sap your sex life permanently, however. We asked the experts how you can get you love life back on track:nDon't let stress become a lifestyle. It's one thing when a looming deadline shuts down a person's sex drive temporarily. But for too many people, chronic stress is a part of everyday life, and that means you may have bigger problems to deal with down the line. If there's no end point to the stress, resentment can build. That's why it's important to keep each other posted on your progress. Things should ease up for me by the end of the month. By keeping that light at the end of the tunnel in view, you'll have an easier time maintaining intimacy during sexless periods. And if there's no end in sight? You may need to make a conscious choice to reduce stress, using a neurotechnology like MentalFitness®. After all, it's not just your sex life (or your relationship) that's at stake; it's your health.nEncourage your partner to share his stress. The only way to tease out buried concerns is to talk about them.n So, for example ask him/her what's bothering him/her; find out how he feels about getting closer — and let him know how you feel about it.nFind nonsexual ways to enjoy each other. Just because one of you doesn't feel like jumping into bed doesn't mean you can't be intimate. So, for example, try to figure out other things you can do that involve talking, touching and sharing feelings in the meantime (going for walks together and holding hands, or unwinding in a Jacuzzi for two).nLeave your worries behind for a weekend — or at least an evening. Make a date for a weekend-long getaway, and leave your responsibilities at home. The goal: to distance yourselves from stress, focus just on each other and rekindle the chemistry.n