Kara Oh
Kara Oh Quick Facts
My life has been strangely blessed. My father left when I was 3 and I never saw him again. I’m sad I never met him later in life, but I know enough about him to understand that it was a blessing in disguise.
In college I met the man I would be married to for 29 years. I got pregnant in my freshman year and we got married after he graduated that year with a degree in business. We had two wonderful children and enjoyed a happy life together for all but the last two years.
We enjoyed financial success, lived in beautiful homes, traveled the world and had an active social life. As things began to fall apart, I moved to Maui to get away from the hurt and chaos that he had initiated. I hated Maui and whining to a friend, “Why didn’t I go to Bali where I feel at home?” she said, “Why don’t you go, there’s nothing keeping you in Maui.” So I called a Balinese friend who was managing a beautiful hotel, the Bali Spirit, and asked if he could give me a friend price on a room for a few months.
He said to come on over and stay for free. But in exchange, I would train his staff so they could compete with the high end hotels. It was a wonderful opportunity and I loved being there. While there, I realized I wanted to live there and make it my home. I designed a house, selected some property that was for lease, and started wrapping my mind around living there.
One of the problems of being in Bali is every two months you have to leave the country to renew your visa. So, I decided I’d go back to Santa Barbara and file for divorce (my husband didn’t want a divorce and wouldn’t file).
While I was in Bali, a wonderful man seduced me, realizing that I was hanging on to a marriage that was clearly over. It was a magical experience because he was a gifted love and opened me to a whole new world. Wow…
So while I was in Santa Barbara, dealing with the divorce and other factors required to make my move to Bali, I started teaching a workshop. It was called “Embracing Our Sensual Selves”. Yes, there was a lot about sex in it, but it was also about sharing how my time in Bali had opened me up to all the glories and magic of being alive on this magnificent planet.
Because I loved teaching workshops, I realized I would not be able to do that in Bali. So I made the decision to stay in Santa Barbara. It’s turned out to be the best decision of my life. That’s because, now, after I ended a six year relationship with a lovely man who wasn’t the right man, I have met the man of my dreams. Well, that’s not really true, because he’s way beyond anything I ever dreamed possible.
I want you to be as happy as I am; to experience profound love that brings tears to your eyes simply because you are so grateful; and to feel blessed that you love who you are, a glorious, magnificent woman. So I write my books and articles, shoot videos, and teach workshops in order to guide you to become a Fabulous Feminine Female through the Magic of Feminine Grace™.
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Is He Flirting Or Just Friendly?
One of my Inner Circle members asked what she should do about feeling unsure because the guy she is dating (not exclusively) is nice to other women. My advice follows, and I would love your thoughts: There is a different way to look at this. If he is a nice man, he will be nice to everyone, even pretty women. That is a good thing. Remind yourself that at this stage of getting acquainted, you need to step back a bit and remind yourself that the best thing to do is to allow t
September 10, 2013
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6 Steps To Get Over An Ex
A women wrote to me today asking for some guidance. She said she was having difficulty moving on after breaking up with her boyfriend, even though the relationship wasn’t working. One thing I know about moving on is that you can’t remove something without putting something else in it’s place. The void needs to be filled. I’m a big believe in the power of writing, especially by hand, not on a computer, so I would recommend the following: * Make a list of all the things abou
February 10, 2012
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How Feminism Harms Women
How Feminism Harms Women by relationship author Kara OhI got a note from a woman who said she’s a Feminist and not interested in what I teach about how to have a deeply loving relationship with a good man. But she was searching for help in the relationship arena, which tells me it’s not going the way she’d like. Duh! What this kind of woman doesn’t realize is that she’s sacrificing having a good relationship so she can be ‘right.’ That’s because Feminism pits women against me
October 3, 2011
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Do You Want Your Ex Back?
Do You Want Your Ex Back? September 27, 2011 by Kara Oh Filed under All About Men Leave a Comment Do You Want Your Ex Back? by relationship author Kara OhIt’s a common scenario. He breaks up with you, then BAM!, he’s immediately in a new relationship. But you’re still in love with him because not enough time has gone by for you to let go. I know you’re hurting, for a variety of reasons. One of the most powerful is the loss of the dream. When we fall in love we begin to se
September 30, 2011
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Is It Male Midlife Crisis?
Most men don’t want to admit they might be going through midlife crisis. When a man does, it’s meaningful. I wrote a book on the topic, and right before I was ready to publish it, my computers were stolen and that book as well. I need to write it again, but first, because I have so many women who are begging for it, I’ve got to finish Feminine Grace. One of the most important things I learned in doing my research is that the thing that triggers a midlife crisis is when a man
September 26, 2011
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Are You Looking For a Man With Money?
I was talking to a woman recently and as usually happens, the topic of what I do came up. After explaining that I write books, do public speaking and led workshops and seminars about relationships, she told me she was looking for a man to be in a relationship with. Everything she said she was looking for had to do with how much money he needed to make. This is NOT how you get a man to fall in love with you. It scares me how often money is top of the list for so many women.
July 25, 2011
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Are You Losing Him To Another Woman?
He’s struggling with the choice of you, or his ex, or someone new that he’s met. What do you do? The best advice I can offer in this situation, in order to win him completely, is be the one who makes him feel like a worthy man. There are two Secrets about men that are of utmost importance, and which most women do not know about. The first is, you must use Feminine Grace always. That means keep your over emotional reactions to yourself, or share with a trusted girlfriend who
July 18, 2011
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Is He Killing Your Spirit?
Okay, here’s how my thinking rolled along, ending up with the above title, knowing I had something helpful to share with you… I’m sitting out here on my patio, looking at my beautiful view, listening to John Legend’s “So High,” sent to me by Stephen, my CO (Chosen One) in a text. (Check out the heart-melting lyrics by listening to the video below.) John Legend - So High Stephen is just ten feet away, working on his computer, enjoying the music with me. I think to myself, “It
July 11, 2011
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He’s Ruining Everything!
When a man asks the question, “Is this all there is?”, somewhere betwee 35 and 55, they often go into what is referred to as Midlife Crisis. It is a serious time in their lives because it is the peak time (other than during the teen years) when they are most likely to commit suicide, to ruin their marriage, their family, their finances, abuse drugs or alcohol, etc. So it is not to be taken lightly. But, that doesn’t mean you should take any kind of abuse. You need to focus o
July 7, 2011
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What is Feminine Grace?
I introduced the concept of Feminine Grace™ ten years ago in the first edition of Men Made Easy. It’s the foundation by which a woman should live her life, if she wants to be her happiest, with an immeasurable capacity to give and receive love. I’m working on finishing the book so many woman are wanting, titled “Feminine Grace, a Step-by-Step Guide To a Brand New You.” But in the meantime, I get a lot of questions about what Feminine Grace™ is. So here is a description of th
June 26, 2011
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5 Guaranteed Ways To Turn a Man OFF!
There are some really simple ways to get a man’s attention and cause him to want to get to know you. But I thought it would be fun, and maybe drive the point home in a more powerful way, to tell you how you can turn men off, guaranteed. Clearly, this is all tongue-in-cheek, but it’s still the truth. 5 Ways To Turn Men Off 1) Slouch. One of the quickest, easiest ways to look completely unattractive, to actually be repellent, is to slouch. When you stand up straight, with good
June 26, 2011
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Are You Attractive To Men, Or Repellent?
Chelsea Kaplan wrote an article titled “Are You The Last One Single?” One of her pieces of advice attempted to answer the question: How can single women project confidence when inside, they’re panicking? She recommends that a woman “project a radiantly positive persona, date with dignity, and transform any desperation sensations into high desirability–that’s how to reign in the Panic.” From personal experience, this is not something you just do. Using my Love Triangle, it fi
June 13, 2011
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Kara Oh's Website
Kara Oh, relationship coach, best-selling author and public speaker, offers a full range of products and services to assist women and men with everything they need to create fulfilling relationships that are filled with love, playfulness, romance and passion.
February 13, 2012
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Lip Smackin Love
LipSmacki Love.tv is a daily show offering advice from relationship expert Kara Oh on how to create relationships that are filled with love, playfulness and passion. That includes your relationship with yourself.
June 8, 2010
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Alive With Love
Alive With Love - Your Guide to Greater Love with Relationship Expert Kara Oh.
June 8, 2010
Favorite Quotes & Thoughts from Kara Oh
"The purpose of intimate partnership is for us to midwife the perfection in each other.
The point of love is to reveal to us the light inside." -- From "Illuminata" by Marianne Williamson
"Be the change you want to see in the world." -- Mahatma Gandhi
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Our fast-paced, ever changing society needs a new way to look at romantic love. The old ways of being in a relationship no longer work. What I offer is a way to step on to a pathway that will lead to each individual discovering their own unique way to love. From that jumping off place, a couple who understands themselves well enough to know what they want, deep in their hearts, can work together to design a marriage or long-term relationship that fits their needs perfectly. My life's work is to help couples do exactly that.
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Thousands of women have been asking for more on how to develop their Feminine Grace, first introduced in Men Made Easy. "The Five Facets of Feminine Grace" is now available. You can start with the first lesson right now.
Learn more at KaraOh.com/feminine-grace