3 Reasons You Need to Treat Dating Like Shopping for Shoes

Every woman or man wants a pair of good shoes. No one would buy smaller-sized shoes or an uncomfortable pair to start with. We all like to mix and match while ensuring that we stand out at any event we attend.

Just like shoes, no one wants to be with the wrong partner. Here are three reasons you have to consider when dating (in comparison to shopping for a pair of good shoes):

You will shop for the perfect pair of shoes

I am sure you do not want to buy a pair of shoes that are too tight and will make you uncomfortable on any occasion. Doing this, means that you may have to take an extra pair of shoes along with you and can result in unexpected embarrassment. You just do not know who you may meet while out. Think about dating the same way, you do not want to date anyone who does not share your values, who is not compatible with you and does not complement you emotionally, spiritually or morally.

You will not shop for a pair of cheap shoes that would not last

Knowing my friends (both male and female) very well, none of them goes for cheap shoes that would not last. I do not either. We always want to make sure we buy a pair of quality shoes that will last for a while. Cheap shoes can wear out easily. You may end up losing a heel while out and then you are left stuck and may need a ride home if you do not have one. Dating is the same. You do not want to date anyone who will treat you like “dirt cheap.” You definitely want to be with someone who appreciates you and knows your worth (and vice versa).

Finding a pair of good shoes may sometimes take a while

You may have to visit one or two malls and sometimes, a number of stores before you eventually find what you want. You may have to window shop from one store to another to find your size. Dating is somewhat similar, you do not just settle for anyone who comes your way. It takes a while to get to know and understand the other person in the picture. Rushing may result in you settling for less than you deserve. You may also end up getting hurt when you rush.

Take your time, get to know and understand anyone you meet. Ensure you share values, complement each other and have things in common that you both do. Communication is also very vital. You may be able to return shoes to the store but you cannot always return to someone you date especially if you end up badly hurt. Always remember, love worth having is worth waiting for. Do not settle but make sure it is love that will last forever. Love is indeed a beautiful thing when you learn to wait for it!

Excerpt, "Being Single: A State for the Fragile Heart." by Kemi Sogunle. Copyright © 2015. All Rights Reserved.