3 TOP SCARING THINGS ABOUT COLLEGE/UNIVERSITY RELATIONSHIPS

These are the things that go on in universities and colleges. If relationships are like this then there is no need to date. These things are so scary. I don’t want to scare you. If you have never been in colleges or universities you might think that those are best places to get a spouse of your life. In this article I’ll share with you the scaring things about college or university relationships. I don’t share this article to frighten you but to enlighten you the kind of things I have lately experience in college. Everything that I’m going to write in this blog post is nothing but from my own personal experience. Ask those who have been I n colleges and universities about their experience when it comes to relationships. I remember when I was in high school I thought that relationships in colleges or universities are so real and solid. What I knew is that everything about these relationships is that they would never be compared with the romance of high school relationships. The romantic TV shows that I used to watch about relationships portrayed very differently from what I expected to find. Relationships are very important and termed as something crucial in people’s lifestyle. The way people handle relationships in colleges or universities completely takes away the meaning of relationships. This is so scary. A person like me who seemed to be so much concerned about positive view of every situation I come across, I have completely failed to solve this puzzle. Before I joined college I remember talking with my friends about how amazing things will be in college/university. The main topic of discussion wasn’t about the courses we applied to study. We only discussed about girls and how we would win so amazing girls who are mature and knew everything about relationships. We were so much excited about this. Something that came in my mind is that there would be nothing frightening about relationship in colleges/university. I had so much expectation. So, when I finally got admitted I knew that not everything was like we predicted. When I scanned every corner of the college I was in I never got interested to be in any relationship. I was so scared when I saw how people handled relationships in that college. These are the scary things about colleges/universities relationships I came across; 1. Very few value the word relationship. rnRomantic relationship in colleges and universities is devalued. This is what scared me the most. We all know that relationship is all about two people. This means that a relationship is supposed to be composed of only two people who tied ties to each other. What we expect in relationship is that this tie that people tied to be valued. It should be handled in a way that it upholds the pledges people make in relationships. This is not the case in most people in colleges and universities. They only use relationship as a mean of satisfying themselves. The few who have no knowledge of this get blindly in relationships and two months later you hear them telling a tale of what happened to them. The innocent girls and boys who are freshmen are sexually exploited without knowing the full attention of the people they choose to date. What I used to see when I was in high school couples used to be loyal to each other. A friend will always remain to be a friend and a girlfriend or boyfriend will stick to be with that title. This is completely opposite of that in colleges and universities. The relationship term has lost its meaning. What scares me more is that even a friend can be your girlfriend or boyfriend. It only depends on the circumstances. Do you know what I mean? This means that even a friend can take the part of being your lover in college and university relationships. I was so surprised one day when I came across a friend who told me that that is what is going on in colleges and universities. He told me that you don’t need even to have a girlfriend; as long as you have a female friend you can treat her as your bae. The term that he used to describe for me all this was “Friends for Benefit” The benefit that I figured out from that term is—being intimate with your friend, no strings attached. I was so frighten. I thought too hard about having a relationship in college. Damn! This made me lose interest completely in relationships. Does it scare you too? It’s obviously that the girl i may end up dating will never miss male friends. We both know it’s very hard to meet someone and take her in your heart and expect her to leave every friend she made because of you. If you do that, I’m not sure if that relationship will last. I asked myself, “If a friend can also be your lover then is that what will happen to the girl I’ll date too in future?” The value of relationship in colleges and universities is diminished by most of the students. If you don’t believe me, take your time and observe. When you find out don’t forget to leave your comment. 2. She/he is your partner when she/he is next to you. rnI guess you already have a clue of what this means to you. If you don’t have I’ll be more than ready to share with you everything. This means that a girl or a boy will be your lover when he or she is next to you. When she/he goes out of your room don’t count him or her as your lover. This is another scaring thing about college and university relationships—it gives me a sense of caution. If you are a guy who is jealous you will probably end up killing someone. This is because most of the people hold to the tag that they aren’t owned by anyone. A girl or boy will tell you openly that he/she isn’t married so she or he can flirt with anyone he/she willing to. If you check it out, it’s logic. You haven’t married him/her so you can’t control her or him. You can’t tell him or her not to hug and kiss everyone she or he meets. If you truly love him or her then you should let him or her do whatever she/he wants. If you won’t let him or her then she or he will just walk away to someone else. The worst thing that scares me more is that he or she might leave your room and go someone else’s next door. Now I get it why my friend who was already taking fashion designing in a certain university, told me that you have to keep your heart locked. Don’t let yourself fall in love with anyone. Every relationship matter should be handled with the brain not heart. If you are a person who falls in love easily with a single move, then it’s time to learn to keep control on your feelings and emotions. If you love too deeply you will end up hurt so badly. You can’t have a guarantee that he or she will be yours only even if she/he said yes to you. The only thing you can hope is for her or him to keep you at the top of his or her priority. This is how most of relationships in colleges and universities go. 3. Sex is the top priority in relationships. rnWe both know that one of the things that keep partners close and strengthen their bond is all about being intimate. Can you have sex with someone you met 2 minutes ago? If you can’t do that then that is more than possible in colleges and universities. I have a friend. I’ll keep his name on the bracket. That is the first friend I made when I joined the class of Mechanical Engineering plant option. He was so bold enough and he told me everything that made me to be surprised. What I used to know when I was in high school is that for couples to have sex they should have at least have been together for almost year. Dude! I was so astounded when I found out that wasn’t the case. This is one of the scaring things about college or university relationships. I used to know about one night stand. In my case I know for one night thing to happen at least you have to have known that person for a period of time. The second thing is that you should have been feelings for him or her that you weren’t able to act on. This is completely opposite of what I came across. I have witnessed people meeting and after five minutes they are already ready to make it out. This is a style of most people in colleges. I don’t want to scare you, but this is what is going on. It’s impossible for any relationship in colleges or universities to survive without sex. I made a friend where is stay and she opened up to me. The good thing about me is that I’m an active listener. In the beginning of the semester she used to tell me she had a boyfriend. The way she describe to me their relationship, it seemed that they were at a good place. She went deep and shared about her sexual life. I was a bit surprised when she told me that she was a virgin. I thought she was lying to me. I have always assumed that every girl you see in college or university can never be a virgin. This is because of how is used to see students behaving in high school functions. They would be so reckless and engage in sexual activities without any measures. So, I figured out that it’s impossible to find a virgin girl in college. I was so curious enough to ask her how she used to handled her relationship with her boyfriend. She told me that she told him that she wasn’t ready to engage herself in sexual activities. I asked her how he responded to that. She told me that he agreed with it. The only thing they did was romance. The second semester she seemed so sad. I wanted to know how she was doing. The first thing she told me about was her relationship issues. Most of my friends knew I’m a blogger. So, since I started Her Beauty they knew I know so much about how relationship matters go. They do hit my inbox for some advices sometimes. So, she told me that she broke up with her boyfriend. I wanted to know the reason. She conveyed to me that she had no idea. She revealed to me that her boyfriend started to react negatively by being aggressive on every tiny detail. He used to abusive her and treated her in a cruel way. She told me that she kept holding on to him because she was in love with him. All she did was to find out what was going wrong in her relationship. The time he used to spend with her also completely decline. I asked her about being intimate with him. She expressed to me that they started dating in the first semester they never had sex. She never allowed him to. If you use your bright mind and think about this case, what can you say about it? In my opinion, I told her that denying him sex was the reason why he was acting that weirdly. He wanted a reason to break up with her. She couldn’t save her relationship because she wasn’t ready to have sex with him. This is something that scares me because in relationship this is not what I used to know. I was so astonished. Student in colleges and universities make sex in relationship as the key of love. Without it very few relationships can survive. People can’t evade this fact, because they are scared to be single and lonely. Don’t get surprised when student drug each other in order to elevate their sexual feelings. This is something that I see every single day. The TV shows about perfect relationships in colleges and universities they don’t convey the whole reality about relationships. These are the 3 scaring things about college/university relationships I came across. There are so many weird things that keep on happen in relationships. Anyway, don’t completely lock your heart. Relationships are a part of our lifestyle. I’m not telling you that if you fall in love don’t act on your feelings. Act on them but be careful with anyone you choose invite in your life. Not all students in colleges/universities have negative ambitions on relationships. Some are focused and hold on their moral principles; something that most of students in colleges and universities forgot that it even exists. This is to keep you enlighten about what goes on in relationships in colleges and universities. Got any questions? Talk to me on the comment section. https://herbeautyonly.blogspot.com/2020/12/Colleges-and-universities-relationships.html