4 Emotions That Destroy Marriages

Marriage is hard work. Blah blah blah. We have all heard this a zillion times, right? And if you've been married more than 10 minutes then you already know this. There are days where you may feel like you go through the entire spectrum of emotions such as love, anger, despair, joy, annoyance, hope or happiness. As long as you are continuously growing and learning in your relationship and you don't get stuck on any one negative emotion for a long period of time, then you can overcome any adversity in your miscommunication marriage. But there are four emotions that when left to fester can destroy your relationship. Anger. It is all consuming. Anger can take hold and put a death grip on your life. In marriage, it can cripple your relationship with your hubby or wifey but above all else, it can wreck havoc on your physical body. You may experience high blood pressure, poor eating habits, low energy or a host of other aliments. When you expend good energy on being offended, wronged or retaliating against your honey, you waste precious time from experiencing a marriage full of joy, love and happiness. Replace anger with understanding. Understanding offers a new perspective on any situation and can burst through limiting blocks that leave you stuck and spinning in place. Fear. It shows up in many ways. It can bubble up from past hurts, mistakes or disappointments. Fear feeds on your mind, spirit and soul. It can try to take hold of your life in a mission destroy your self confidence, inner wisdom and truth. The great news is that faith and love trumps fear every time. Seek a deeper relationship with the higher power. The Creator of the Universe teaches unconditional love and when your heart is full of love, then fear has no place to reside. Pride. Pride and ego go hand in hand. While pride is not completely bad, it can put a wall up against you and your hubby if approached in a selfish way. Pride can prevent you from admitting your mistakes or allowing yourself to be vulnerable in your relationship. You hide behind pride because it is a safe place and allows you to hide from the truth about your real feelings. Thankfulness is the key to break through pride and ego. What are you thankful for in your life and marriage? Focus your attention on those special gifts and watch them grow in your relationship. Regret. WOW! Regret is a huge distraction in marriage. It can have you playing the game 50 Questions such as "Why did I marry HIM?" "What if I had just left this marriage a long time ago?" Or it can have you wishing for a different outcome in your relationship. "I wish I had spoken up before." "This isn't the life I envisioned." Put regret to bed by pledging to listen and live from a place of inner peace and knowing. This takes time but inner peace is the secret ingredient to kicking regret out of your partnership.rnWhen you feel these emotions taking over your spirit, heart or mind then stop, take a deep breathe and say aloud 5 things about your honey that you find totally attractive. Then say the list again at least three times. Listen to your words with an open heart. Then say the list again and insert the following phrases in front of your list, "I love him because he is/of his..." or "My Baby Cakes is..." Say this another three times. Your subconscious starts to take hold of your positive words of affirmation. It is hard to hold on to anger, fear, pride or regret when your inner thoughts are overwhelmed with understanding, love, thankfulness and inner peace about your Baby Cakes. Don't detach yourself from your marriage relationship , spouse or yourself by getting caught up in the hater talk within (a.k.a. negative self talk) that force feeds these debilitating emotions. Take ownership of your feelings and make a commitment to overcome the destructive emotions.