5 Ways to Avoid Court at all Costs! (by: Anne Brown PhD, RN)
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Divorce can be ugly. Courts can make it uglier.
I think we are all in agreement "settle out of court". How can a couple do that when they are fighting to the extent they are filing for divorce? You are probably going to get tired of hearing me say first always "Fight for your Marriage."
1. Fight for your Marriage! This means get into a really competent couple's therapist office (or a couple's retreat/workshop) and put everything on the table. Make your requests for what you need from your partner to stay in the marriage. Your partner can either say No sorry no can do, I will work on that, or I can do as you ask. Your partner needs to do the same and you need to respond. Look for action, as we all know words are easy. Every couple, by the time they arrive at the lawyer's office, ought to be able to answer the question why are you getting divorced? Each partner ought to be able to identify the issues, everyone's perspective on the issues and why that is a reason for a breakup. Fight, negotiate, and/or beat the issue to death, agree to disagree and let it go. If you engage in this process successfully, you will be ready to move to step two!
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About the Author
Dr. Anne Brown PhD,
of Sausalito, Califo
ia, is a psychotherapist, speaker, coach, and the author of Backbone Power: The Science of Saying No. Anne's approach is especially applicable to people affected by divorce. Backbone Power is a no nonsense self help guide to making decisions while having backbone and integrity in all your choices, short term and long term. In addition to helping the divorce community, Anne has over twenty years experience as the trusted advocate and advisor to influential corporate leaders, trial atto
eys, athletes, leaders, physicians and others seeking actionable guidance. Brown is a graduate of the University of Virginia, BS in Nursing; Boston University, MS in Psychiatric-Mental Health in Nursing; and International University, PhD in Addiction Studies. In 1997 Brown also reached a personal goal of obtaining her Black Belt in Soo Bahk Do. You can contact Dr. Anne Brown through email: annebrown@sopris.net or her website: www.BackbonePower.com .
Dr. Brown has limited openings for Backbone Divorce Coaching/Therapy. Email: annebrown@sopris.net
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