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Hi friends,
Are you aware that how you perceive yourself (your self-concept) will act as a ceiling to what you can achieve? So if you have a low self-concept, then you are likely to be the type of person to achieve goals which are "average", your attitude to life is about just "getting by" and your performance levels are just "good enough".
However if you have a very high self-concept then you are most likely to be the type of person who demands more of yourself, has high expectations and goals, is resilient and is always looking for opportunities to grow and challenge yourself.
How is that you ask?
Your self-concept incorporates your self-esteem and your self-esteem is a reflection on whether you believe you are capable of coping with challenges and if you believe you are worthy and deserving. So a person who has a high self-concept and self-esteem is the type of person who will always do more because they believe they are up to the challenge and deserve more rewards and results.
Therefore the problem is you will NEVER exceed your self-concept but the solution is ...rnyou can IMPROVE your self-esteem to increase your self-concept so that you can achieve more in life.
Here are 7 easy and effective tips to get started:
1. Accept yourselfrnYour past does not have to equal your future. Understand that your choices were a result of the information, beliefs and values you were taught to believe. So if you replace the unsupportive ones with supportive ones, then you will naturally start to make decisions which work towards getting positive and beneficial results. When you accept yourself as you are right now, then you are ready to let go of the past and take positive action to move forward. You no longer feel guilty, disappointed or discouraged because you understand the future is bright as you have learnt from your mistakes.
2. Earn your self-esteemrnSelf-esteem can't be bought or borrowed, only earned and the good news is, you have the knowledge and the abilities to earn your high self-esteem. It comes from taking on new challenges and looking for opportunities to grow. Do something you wouldn’t normally do like charity or volunteer work, delve into a new hobby, or offer your assistance to help achieve someone else’s goals. You will be amazed at how easy this step is because when you give... the universe will make sure you get (and I can certainly vouch for that).
3. Healthy body – healthy mindrnIt's been said over and over, but exercise is the cornerstone to good health, physical and mental. Eat right, avoid toxins in your environment and make sure you sweat! The more, the better! And hopefully with an activity that you enjoy, such as biking, running, walking, hiking...the list goes on! The more energy you exert – the more you get in return. This one is hard to explain… but believe me it works. Imagine how tired you feel after you sit on the couch watching TV all day compared to a day when you have been active like playing with the kids in the local park… how is it that the latter makes us feel more alive?
4. Be the person you want to bernMost people wait to HAVE, then they will DO the things they need to do to BE the person they want to be…. But the unfortunate thing is that people always live in hope waiting for the future to come around and they never get there. Here is a thought…. Let’s switch it around, instead… rnWhy don’t we BE the person we want to be, and DO the things we need to do, so that naturally we will HAVE the things that we want. If we are already living the way we want to live, instead of waiting for that perfect moment… can you imagine how great and perfect we would feel? Can you imagine what this would do for our self-esteem? So what are you waiting for?
5. Manage the negative people in your livesrnI say manage because sometimes we cannot avoid them as they can be people from our family, work or circle of friends. Misery needs company and negative people may not like that you have a new lease on life as they often feel left behind. Negativity is like weeds – it takes no effort for it to grow and that is why you must make sure to actively control them in your garden (your environment).
6. Forgive othersrnPlease do not confuse this with being weak. To forgive does not mean that you condone but it means to let go. Release the negative emotions as they hold YOU back, not anyone else. Holding onto ill feelings is like drinking poison and hoping the other person dies. It festers in your body and does you harm instead. Revenge, anger and jealousy are emotions that do not serve you. Be active in replacing them with joy, purpose, kindness and love.
7. Treat it as if it's YOUR lifernBecause it is your life. Not your parent's. Not your children's. Not your spouse's. Not society's. But YOURS. There is no one-size-fits-all life. Not everyone will agree with how you live your life so don't worry about their approval. If you live your life to please others, you will be like a dog forever chasing its tail.