9 REASONS WHY PEOPLE STICK INTO TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS.

Many people find it so hard to walk away from toxic relationships. I’ll share with you why these people stick into toxic relationships. Before I reveal everything to you let me start by explaining to you what is a toxic relationship. Toxic relationships are relationships that no one can get something better from them but harm and problems. All I can say about these relationships is that they are unhealthy. As I said earlier in my blog post that unhealthy relationship have a negative effect on the health of someone’s body, mind and the entire lifestyle. I elaborated more of the effects of unhealthy relationships in my previous post. If you have gone through that post by now I know you know the effects of toxic relationships. With all these effects but you will find out that people are still stuck to these relationships. They don’t want to let go of them though they hurt them. I have been curious enough to find out why these people don’t want to let go of these relationships. This is what I found out after I dug deep in my relationship curiosity bucket. If you don’t have your curiosity bucket I guess you should make one. This will help you to understand more about the relationships that people choose to indulge themselves in. Anyway without wasting your precious time let me dive deep and explain to you why these people stick into these toxic relationships. 1. Low self-esteem. Low self-esteem is all about the negative view of one’s image. The moment a person has low opinion of himself or herself that is one thing that can make a person get stuck in a toxic relationship. This will make someone feel that there is no one who will be ready to take him or her in. If you know that no one else who will accept you in their lives, will you really let go of the current relationship you are in even if it’s toxic? This is one of the reasons that make people make these difficult decisions in their lives. It’s logic. If you have a low self-esteem you view yourself nothing but a burden. You will prefer to hang in that toxic relationship because what you know is that no one will accept you in their lives. In most cases the things that results to this low self-esteem in a person is how is treated. It’s unhealthy relationship nothing comes from it. So, the more person stick into it the more his or her self-esteem decreases. Do you know what decreases the self-esteem of a person? If a person is constantly abused and treated in way that makes him or her feel worthless. This can be a cause of low self-esteem. This will make that person prefer to stick in that relationship no matter how bad it’s. “I’m not that good for anyone. All I do is to destroy every person who comes into my life. I’m nothing but a burden and problems to people. I don’t think anyone will be ready to let me in their lives. No matter how bad this relationship is, I’ll stick to it.” You get the above paragraph I have quoted, that is an internal voice of a person who is stuck in toxic relationship. Do you think he or she will let go of it? 2. Used to it. This is another reason that makes people to stick into toxic relationships. It’s usually very hard to let of the things you are accustomed to. This usually happens to people who are afraid of change. People who find it hard to change the states of their lives are the ones who find it hard to walk away from toxic relationships. They vividly know that these relationships are affecting every part of their lives but they can’t let go of them because they are used to them. We all know those people who have endure pain in their lives for so long to an extent they are used to it. They find it very hard to switch to a peaceful situation thinking that also something bad might come out of the change. It’s not their choice, it’s the kind of beliefs they hold onto. It will take you so much time to change such kind of people. If someone is rigid to his or her lifestyle it’s very hard to make him or her change that. In most circumstances, these people understand everything that is going on in that relationship. The only thing they lack is the energy to change the flow of events they are used to. Sometimes the rigidity of the people is associated with the partners they associate themselves with. They brain wash them in thinking that that is the perfect relationship for them, though it’s a toxic relationship. This makes it very hard for these people to let go of these toxic relationship. 3. Hopping those things will change. These people stick into toxic relationships because they think those things will change. I can say some people use their internal motivation in a way that is so far away from possibility. The moment when a person clings to the hope that things will never remain to be toxic—this is one of the factors that will make that person stuck in that relationship. Will you let go of someone you love hopping that they will change to be better in the future? I want to be open with you. Sometimes it’s recommend to keep your hope in something that you believe in. that is what every motivational speaker will tell you. We all know that hope gives us a reason to keep moving, it shows us the bright sides of our lives and it’s the only thing that will always make you see the best in people. You also have to understand hope can make you lose so much than you expected. You always have to check on the place you keep your hope on. You can’t be hopping for a flame to go off yet you keep on adding fuel to it. That is insane. You can now relate this with the toxic relationships that people are hoping to get better with time. The more time you keep on hopping that everything will get better the more you stay connected to that relationship. We all know that everything gets weaker or stronger with time. It’s a relationship. In it the more you spend time with a person the more you increase the bond with him or her. So, this is a reason why people get stuck in these toxic relationships and completely fail to find a way of getting out of them. The moment you realize your relationship is toxic and you have tried all the possible ways you can to make it healthy. All your ways have failed. Don’t stick around trying to play heroic; you will only be hurting your feelings. Always know where to place your hope and what to hope for. Let not hope be a reason for you to get stuck in a toxic relationship that will hurt you for the rest of your life. 4. Afraid to see the person you love with someone else. People may be in relationship with people who treat them so cruel. They stick in that relationship because they are in love with the person they are dating. They are afraid to see them with someone else. It’s very painful to see the person you love with someone else and yet you are the cause of the break up. This is what make these people stick in these toxic relationships. Love is something that is so powerful. Love can blind you to see anything that is before you perfect even if it’s surrounded by imperfections. People find it so hard to walk away from the things they love, especially when one knows that it will eventually belong to someone else. Love has the ability to make people stuck in situation that they know they are bad for them. So, sometimes you can’t blame them for making such decisions in their lives. You know how badly a heart can stick to something that its love. The way people get defensive on anything they believe in no matter how dangerous they seem to be. That is how all these people who are in toxic relationships feel. They find it hard to let go of them because their hearts are hooked in them. Making them to change their mind might be quite a work for a therapist. By now I hope you know why people stick in these toxic relationships. It’s the feelings that keep them tied to these relationships. It’s not their fault. We don’t have to keep the blame on them for making such choices. All we can do is to share with them an insight of the negativity of these relationships and let them decide for themselves. Last time I checked everyone had the choice to choose the kind of relationship he or she chooses to involve himself or herself in. 5. When they think of time to build a new relationship. Relationship takes so much time to be fully built. The time and energy it takes to build a new relationship is so much. So, when a person think of the time, energy and sacrifice that he or she will have to make for the new relationship, this might be enough obstacle to let that person remain stuck in toxic relationship. To be honest it takes time to let a person fully in your heart. The time it takes to make a person gain someone’s trust. Damn! I can tell you that it’s a bit too long. So, when this thought strike someone’s head it becomes too hard to let go of the relationship he or she is in. Those people who find it easier to build a relationship within a short period of time, they should carefully evaluate their relationships. What I believe is that strong, reasonable and reliable relationships take time to be created. In this case, it makes it hard for people to seek any new relationship. There is also something else; finding someone who is similar to the person you love. We all know the character traits that we look in the people we want to have in our lives. It takes time to find a person with the qualities that you want. You might meet so many beautiful people but they will never measure what your heart demands. So, I hope you get now why these people are stuck in these toxic relationships. 6. If they have no idea if the relationships they are in are toxic. This is something that makes people to stick in toxic relationships. The lack of knowledge sometimes it can be a factor. I guess you know the feeling of completely being unaware of anything that affects you. If you have no idea what can harm you, you will never have any mechanisms that can defend you. This will leave you vulnerable. So, you will just walk blindly on what might affect you. Sometimes you cannot blame the people who are stuck in these situations. If you have the knowledge of what you can affect your lifestyle you are at a safe place. There are people out there who know nothing of how their lives can be affected by the kind of relationships they involve themselves in. It’s very good for anyone to read widely on things that he or she has no idea of. You will never know what you read today might have an impact on something that you will come across tomorrow. These people who are stuck in these toxic relationship and they have no idea they suffer quietly. Talk to people who seem to have problems in their lives. You are responsible for people who around you. You have to know that these people have an ability to affect your lifestyle at a huge part. What I believe is that everything in this universe is connected. So, the things you teach someone today might have a vast effect on someone’s life. That is one of the reasons why I chose to be a blogger. I don’t take credit for that. I write to educate. To conclude, there are so many reasons that make people to stick in these toxic relationships. I have not exhausted them because if I start to talk about them I’ll not be able to complete them. These are just few reasons that will be able enlighten you. So, that you don’t get shocked when you see someone stuck in a wrong relationship. With this knowledge you will also be able help anyone who is stuck in toxic relationship. Got any questions? Leave your comment below I’ll reply it as soon as possible. https://herbeautyonly.blogspot.com/2020/12/why-people-stick-in-toxic-relationships%20.html