It's More Than Just Learning

American author Alvin Toffler said, "The illiterate of the future are not those that can not read or write. They are those that can not learn, unlearn, relearn."

By now we should all be aware that in order to improve one's position in life, we must continue to learn new things. But in order to grow personally we must also be able to unlea
the behaviors that put obstacles in our personal development paths, and relea
the new behaviors that will put us back on course.

Lets look today at three of the key behaviors we should consider replacing with new behavior.

Listening
Listening is not a passive activity. It is unfair to the person who is speaking to have a person there in body but not in mind. Just because we are the person being quiet does not mean we are listening. As a listener we must be in the present and taking in the speakers message in the proper context. It's not the time to be thinking about what to have for lunch or your next witty comeback. Be fair to the speaker and have a clear and open mind.

Choice
I believe that we are where we are today because of the accumulative effect of all our choices. We have thousands of choices to make each day and we control our lives by those choices. Having the ability to choose equals power. Once you give someone else the ability to make choices for you, whatever they may be, you give up power. Once you realize you have the power of choice, life happens for you, not to you!

Self-Talk
All day, everyday, we talk to ourselves. Sometimes we even talk to ourselves out loud. When we talk to ourselves what we are really doing is giving commands to our subconscious mind. The subconscious mind is a very powerful tool. It carries out its orders efficiently and effectively. It does not know the difference between right or wrong and caries no judgment. It just does what it is told. Are you telling your subconscious that you are smart or dumb, useful or useless, wealthy or poor, athletic or a coach potato. Whatever you are telling your subconscious mind you become.

Success is not a destination, it is a journey. Sometimes along the way we need to correct our course by unlea
ing the behavior that derails the journey and relea
new behavior to get us back on track. If you feel you may be a little off track, that's OK. Identify the possible problem, it might even be one of three subjects in this article, and replace the behavior. nnn