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***Finding Balance While Grieving

Topic: Grief and LossPublished March 26, 2009

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One of the most important things I do each day is stand on one foot. I know, that sounds silly. I will explain.

A couple months ago I added a new yoga pose to my morning routine. I begin by standing straight and tall with my feet together. Then I bend at the waist, lifting one leg straight back while stretching my head and arms parallel in front of me.

At first I fell sideways quite a lot. It’s good to begin with a chair or wall to your side for balance.

As I kept practicing, I became more balanced. But then I would again lose my balance. I noticed that the more I thought about what I was doing, the less I was able to hold the pose.

I began to focus simply on the intention of holding the pose. I felt the pose in my mind before I actually held the pose with my body..

I have begun to experiment with intention and vision in all areas of my life.

In the past it has been easy for me to get caught in analysis paralysis. I would plan to plan to plan. Of course, plans are often interrupted. Then I would feel out of balance.

Living with vision and intention rather than with rigid plans seems to allow for a sense of balance, even in the midst of confusion and challenge.

Coping with grief can be extremely challenging. Your life can feel out of balance and filled with confusion. Your vision can seem clouded with tears and the paralysis of pain.

What will be your intention and vision for this day?

You might say that you are grieving and you have no intention or vision.

Can your intention for this day be about being present when someone asks you how you are feeling?

Can you really check in with yourself rather than just saying you are fine?

Living from a place of intention is really about checking in and being honest about your life right now.

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Sandy Clendenen lost her husband and best friend in 1999, after twenty-one years of marriage. Her grief process was lengthy and complex. Sandy felt stuck in layers of unresolved grief. As part of her heaing, Sandy filled numerous jou als with her thoughts and feelings. A review of these jou als several years later revealed insights into the grief process which Sandy is now committed to sharing with other grievers. Sandy attended seminary for 3 years. She also received her Master of Arts in Counseling Psychology. Sandy has also worked in various areas of hands on healing. Sandy incorporates her vast personal experience and education into her grief coaching products and services. http://movebeyondgrief.com Additional Resources covering Grief and Bereavement can be found at:nnnnWebsite Directory for Grief and Bereavement nArticles on Grief and Bereavement nnProducts for Grief and BereavementnDiscussion Boardn Sandy Clendenen is The Official Guide to Grief and Bereavement.nn

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