It has been my experience since I began my journey to learn about Radical Forgiveness (I am a completely certified Radical Forgiveness coach now, WooHoo!! ) that many people think that not forgiving those so-and-sos from our past and present is okay and that we can have peace anyway. After all... what they did was horrible... there is plenty of justification for your ire, and doggone it, it just feels GOOD to be mad at them!! I say this from experience y’all... I know how delicious it can seem to hate someone who has wronged you!! But now....I beg to differ. n nWe must learn to forgive. Here’s why. n nOur health depends on it. Anger, resentment and years of un-forgiveness show up in our subtle bodies first (the etheric, mental, emotional, and spiritual bodies that surround our physical bodies) but left untended, these wounds begin to scream to be healed. Situations (with different people in different arenas) show up in our lives with the same theme from the original wounds trying to get our attention. The same kinds of dysfunctional relationships, job situations, financial dilemmas, failed businesses etc. etc. show up time and time again and each time they get a little worse, a little more challenging. The wounds in our subtle bodies then get heavier and heavier and eventually they drop down into our physical bodies as cancerous tumors, heart dis-ease, diabetes, arthritis and every other illness and even accidents all have their origin in a form of depression (diagnosed or not) that is the result of resentment, hurt, anger and un-forgiveness.n nOur productivity depends on it. So what do we do when we go on without forgiving people? We stuff that emotion right? We can’t go around blasting everyone we meet with the anger that we still have over our EX can we? No... so we push it down. Colin Tipping the author of the book Radical Forgiveness says that the energy that it takes to keep each situation stuffed down in that way can be likened to the energy it takes to hold a beach ball down in the water. Multiply that energy by the number of incidents that you are resentful of and you will see why you have so little energy to make a real mark in your life today! Then if you consider that your fear of the future drains you in the same fashion as the resentments from the past do, that leaves you with very little energy to do much of anything but tread water in the present. n nOur prosperity depends upon it. Bottom line is that we have got to get with the fact that this is a spiritual world that we are living in and we are merely having a human experience in it. The rules of the game are spiritual and not physical. If we want to win at this game called life we must learn these spiritual rules. You cannot have riches and keep them comfortably as long as you are filled with un-forgiveness. This is partly because your subconscious feels guilty for holding on to that resentment and therefore unconsciously you don’t feel you deserve a prosperous joyful life. Edwene Gaines, abundance guru, says that all debt is an acceptable form of self punishment. Not only must we learn to forgive others but we must learn to forgive ourselves too. This also goes back to not accepting our divinity. When you know that you are truly a JOINT heir with Jesus you will know that you and everyone else on the planet, deserves lavish, opulent abundance and you will begin to let go of all that holds you back from attracting it into your life, in particular...un-forgiveness. There is a reason Jesus said that we should forgive seventy time seventy times! He knew we needed to in order to live the kind of life that he did.n nFinally our joy depends on it. As I have said many times, un-forgiveness is like living with a poison running through our bodies. It literally makes us sick and how can a sick person have a happy life? Freedom from guilt, anger, hurt, sadness is necessary for a joyful life. Peace, abundance, prosperity, adventure, excitement, enthusiasm cannot come through a resentful consciousness. It just can’t. We must consciously choose to do what it takes to let all those beach balls loose so we too can loose our energy and creativity to create our lives in the most joyful fulfilled way.n nNow I want to be sure to distinguish “traditional” forgiveness from “Radical” forgiveness. Traditional forgiveness says “You did me wrong, but... I am spiritual now, so I forgive you....” No, no, no... that won’t release not one beach ball because the truth is, that unless we realize that nothing anyone ever did was wrong we will stay stuck. Haven’t you had those experiences where something bad seemed to happen but then some time later you looked back at it and realized that it was a good thing? The premise of Radical Forgiveness is that everything that happens is ultimately a good thing. Everything that happens is divinely orchestrated for our spiritual growth, EVERYTHING! Take a breath!n nSo, that does sound pretty RADICAL doesn’t it? How could that be? How could it be a good thing that he walked out and took all the money? No way it was divine that she cheated with my best friend! What about the abused children? Yes..yes..I know that it sounds incredulous, but much like the back of a tapestry looks crazy, yet when you turn it over you have a perfect picture, so is the “human” side of life... crazy looking. If we could but turn it over, we would see the perfection of all of the incidents in our lives. We don’t know the mind of God however and so we have to trust that this supreme consciousness (which by the way puts the sun up every morning and the moon up every night with such perfection and majesty) knows what it is doing in our lives too. Have you noticed that many of the most highly evolved leaders of our time have started life with less than desirable living conditions. Read Louise Hay’s story, Iyanla Vanzant’s story, Wayne Dyer’s story, Oprah Winfrey’s story. All of them started with very unfortunate situations and yet they are now using their childhood wounds to help others heal and they are benefiting from their work in miraculous ways. In truth, their early lives were a good thing. n nUltimately there is nothing to forgive because of the divine nature of everything that happens, but we must start where we are in consciousness. If the wound was an emotional one, it will require an emotional healing. And that is where the Radical Forgiveness tools, workshops and coaching come in. The workshops and the coaching help you to learn how to use the tools which to me are magical instruments for transformation. Since I started using these tools in December of just last year (2007) my life has seen a dramatic, dramatic shift and I have worked with many others who have seen similar shifts in their lives as well.n nWanna know more? Call me or buy the book "Radical Forgiveness" or go out to the web site
www.radicalforgiveness.com and learn how to make room for some miracles!!