Worrying is a Cop Out

We live under the illusion that we must worry or that by worrying we are proving that we care or even possible love someone or something. Worry gives us the ability to feel like we have some involvement in how things turn out while at the same time giving us the right to do nothing about it. In this way, we feel like we are responsible without really ever taking responsibility. Worry boils down to expressed fear. We are afraid of some negative consequence for someone or something, and we feed that fear to sustain the feelings of anxiety. In always feeling this anxiety, we always have the object of our worry in mind.

When we feel that we must worry, it is because we believe that worry translates to responsibility. If we are worried about it, then we must have some affect on the outcome of that which we worry about. However, worry and responsibility are not in the same category at all. Worry is a feeling, and that’s all. Just because you worry about something doesn’t mean that its path will change because of it. Worry is all about you, and not the thing you worry about.

When you do decide to do something based on your fears about it, you usually help bring that which you worry about into being. This occurs very often in relationships. We may find ourselves with someone that we believe is perfect for us. Because we don’t find anything “wrong” with him or her, we begin to search for something wrong or signs that they may want to leave us. When we don’t find anything wrong, we begin to worry that something is going to go wrong or that they will no longer want to be with us (they are better than me, they can do better than me, I’m not good enough for him/her, they are out off my league, etc). We expect problems, so when they aren’t there, we worry about when they will show up.

We may then become hyper sensitive to everything this individual does, because we are expecting them to do something wrong or to leave us all together. We may even begin to accuse them things they are going to do, projected out of our fear. Eventually, this individual may leave us because of our irrational behavior, our unfounded accusations, and because the relationship ceased to serve them as they find themselves always needing to defend themselves about things they never did or even considered doing. We were afraid that this person would do something wrong or leave us, and in our fear-based response, we caused it to happen. We then sit back and say, “I knew it was going to happen,” never acknowledging our part in the destruction of a perfectly good relationship.

To assume that worry equals love and care is also a mistake. Worry is based in fear, which is the exact opposite of love. To fear something is to see the potential negative possibilities for it. We prepare for something bad to happen and fear its manifestation. Because you can only bring into existence that which you focus upon, we have not choice but to experience that which we fear. We worry about something, so we produce more worry about it. If we believe that what we are worried about will happen, then that vision will also be manifested.

To love someone or something is to see them as a part of you. In doing so, you will only see that which you want to manifest. What you don’t want to happen won’t become a focus point in any way. With love, you only see the highest possibility for yourself, those around you, and the related experiences. Just because worry causes you to focus on something doesn’t make that focus love. The love is found within your view of that person, thing or experience.

We do not have to worry. Life comes down to options. You have the option of worry or of love. Rather than choosing to worry about some negative circumstance that doesn’t exist to prove that we love or care, choose instead to just love or care. In our love and care, we will see only the highest possibilities, and bring those into being. In doing so, there is no need to worry because we’ve created what we chose.

For those things that we have control over, we know that we don’t need to worry about their consequences. They are not in question, because they will turn out exactly as we have decided they will. For those things that we do not have control over, there is no need to worry about their consequences either. We have no influence on what will happen. Our worry will not impact what happens. Our worry will only cause us to suffer as we watch the unfolding of those circumstances. Therefore, worry is needless here as well.

To not worry does not mean you are not taking responsibility. In fact, when you release worry, you are then able to do something constructive about the object of your previous worry based in love. To not worry also does not mean that you don’t care. Love exists within oneness. When you begin to see that everything is a part of you, and understand influence and control, you’ll see that worry cannot help ever. In fact, worry is counter to love. The two cannot exist at the same time. End your worry, and you’ll end the majority of your own problems.