Your Image: Dealing from Strength Empowers

Article by Expert Image Consultant, Sandy Dumont
Your Image: Dealing from Strength Empowers
Change your image, change your life!

We all aspire to deal from strength when it comes to business. We take courses to improve our skills, and we get better with experience. My clients often write to tell me how changing their image (the way they look and dress) impacts them in areas other than business.

For example, a client from Malibu sent me an email a few days after her recent image workshop in Califo
ia. Before the image workshop she didn’t know what she wanted or needed when it came to clothes. She was an attractive and magnetic woman, but she wanted an image session to be certain she looked pulled together at all times.

You see, she negotiates with power brokers in New York and L.A. and needs to deal from strength and take action with certainty. When you’re not certain about your appearance, you don’t come across as confidently as you could. It is empowering to look in the mirror and know that not only you feel good about yourself, but that everyone you encounter will, too. This kind of ultimate self-confidence frees you to concentrate on the business at hand.

Here’s the note I received from this client: “Everyone continues to remark how I look younger and prettier! Yesterday I went to my favorite designer-closeout store, armed with my little color swatch book. One-third of the clothes we discarded together came from there. They were worn once or twice and always self-consciously. This time, I found things I like but remembered you warned me to stay away from. At least fifty times I tried to will the color swatches into matching the color of the garment I was looking at and lusting for. (P.S. – that didn’t work!) I bought only four garments. This morning, back home in the stark light of day, in front of the mirror I stand before always, they look even better than in the store! I saved SO much money and time!”

She continued, “This powerful experience got me to thinking about other places in my life where it’s crucial to know just what I want, what works best for me personally, and then to simply only buy that. The principle of the swatch card applies to men, houses, cars, daily habits, etc. I was really stunned at the realization. It hit me hard that if I just exclusively matched all potential houses/men/cars/habits against what I know absolutely I want, then I would not have to waste any more time with the things that are wrong for me. This is so simple, but it was a powerful Aha for me. When I shopped at my favorite store, I was laser focused and got astounding results with very little investment of time. It was incredibly transformative!”

My client will be dealing from strength now in all areas of her life. Before the image workshop she didn’t know what she wanted or needed when it came to clothes. This is not unusual. However, she came to the realization that she does know what she wants in a man, a home, and other areas and decided to apply the same “shopping” principles to these other areas. Life is so much simpler when you don’t waste your time or money looking at things that aren’t appropriate for you. nn