Your Inner Voice Will Go with You

Deep within us lies a 'voice' our own voice, which has been created based on our past experiences, even the experiences you think you have forgotten about, or you do not think about on a daily basis are buried deep within you. This inner voice that constantly speaks within you will be repeating those original events and messages to you daily.

If you have spent time building your confidence your inner voice will have very little control over you, it will be positive and reassuring the majority of the time, and you will be able to dismiss any negative messages. For people with low self esteem your inner voice will be your own worst enemy, your saboteur and critic, constantly belittling your efforts, punishing your mistakes and criticizing.

Do you ever find yourself berating yourself for something that you have done? Have you ever found yourself struggling with something that you know you should do but keep talking yourself out of? That is your inner voice.

If you are struggling with doing what you really want to in life check out what your inner voice is saying to you. Maybe it is letting you know that there is no way you can achieve something. Is it telling you not to take the risk of doing something because you will fail?

The best way to change the messages that your inner voice is throwing at you is to find things you have accomplished, no matter how small, almost as a counter argument. Yes but! You can tell it, and then remind yourself of that achievement of yours.

Ultimately, this is your voice, it is in your head, so you have complete control over it and that is the thing you need to remember because it is time to take back control of your inner voice. When I first started I would use foul language and tell it to "shut the f**k up!" I think using what I saw as an extreme word shook me out of my pattern and made me stop. An alternative is just to thank it for sharing. You can say something like 'thank you for sharing that and I am going to choose to ignore you'

It is time to talk back to your inner voice in whatever way works for you, this is the way to combat it and let it know who is really in charge, YOU! Recognize what kind of inner voice you have, does it tend to be unfairly harsh? If it does just thank your inner voice for sharing its opinion and suggest a positive statement instead.

If your inner voice is a dramatic generalizing voice that tends to exaggerate letting you know how you really messed up something for everyone then get specific with it to put it in its place. Let it know that you realize now how you messed up, you have learnt from that experience and you know what you will do differently next time.

Begin to recognize what your inner voice is saying and why, counteract whatever it tells you that is negative with a positive statement or promise. Many times whatever your negative inner voice is saying is simply not true, so find why you might want to say that about yourself and what you may be protecting yourself from.

Using positive statements and self-talk will support you in improving your self-esteem, and when used consistently, and repeated often you will train your unconscious mind to change what you believe about your abilities.

Give yourself time to really immerse yourself in positive statements and to make them a natural part of your life. This is a journey, not a quick fix and you will need the patience to keep affirming yourself when your negative inner voice decides to do otherwise.