A Gift for Your Husband

The biggest gift you have for your husband is yourself.

Let’s look at what Solomon’s love said about him along this line in Song of Songs 7:10,

“I belong to my lover, and his desire is for me.”

Did you notice the confidence and pride with which she says this? She happily proclaims that she belongs to him and that his desire is for her. How can she be so sure of herself? Rare is the man who can fall out of love with a woman who is his woman and proud of it.

This woman of Solomon’s thought he was fantastic and she told him so often. But she didn’t stop there to keep this man hers. The Bible also tells us that she ached for him when they were apart and wanted to be with him as much as possible.

“How handsome you are, my lover! Oh, how charming!”

Song of Songs 1:16.

“Show me your face, let me hear your voice; for your voice is sweet, and your face is lovely,”

Song of Songs 2:14.

“My lover is radiant and ruddy, outstanding among ten thousand. His head is purest gold; his hair is wavy and black as a raven. His eyes are like doves by the water streams, washed in milk, mounted like jewels. His cheeks are like beds of spice yielding perfume. His lips are like lilies dripping with myrrh. His arms are rods of gold set with chrysolite. His body is like polished ivory, decorated with sapphires. His legs are pillars of marble set on bases of pure gold. His appearance is like Lebanon, choice as its cedars. His mouth is sweetness itself; he is altogether lovely. This is my lover, this is my friend, O daughters of Jerusalem,” Song of Songs 5:10–16.

rnDoesn’t she go on, though? This is the kind of woman I could love to hate. Why? Because she makes me feel guilty. Guess what? Instead of hating her, I decided to join her. “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” How did you treat your husband before you were married? Did you try your best to please him? Do you still?

What really sticks with me when I read about Solomon’s love is that, yes, she looked good, but that isn’t what I see him saying draws him to her. I believe what keeps Solomon captivated is her love, her desire, and her awe for him. That is what I mean. Feed him steak!

This next point seems like something I shouldn’t even need to mention, but believe me; I know for a fact from talking to women across the U.S. that it needs to be reiterated. We are to never refuse our husband intimacy. If he feels affection and/or desire for you and wants to express it, you don’t have a headache or anything else wrong with you.

Just at Paul says in 1 Corinthians 7:5, “Do not deprive each other, except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”

Like I mentioned earlier, the biggest gift you have to give your husband is yourself. Give him your respect; treat him as a desirable man, as your hero. To do this you have to look beyond yourself and look to him.

You don’t have to be young and slim to love intimacy. More than one study has shown that the marriages which are most full of intimacy are the couples who have been married for a long time.

What do you think?