A marriage without physical intimacy- Can it be happier?

Marriage holds two people together not only emotionally but also physically. These are the two important pillars of a happy married life. With the passage of time when a couple is blessed with a child or children priorities get reorganized, sometimes unawaringly. In the process physical intimacy between the couples gets restricted rather it is lost somewhere in the lanes of memories. Both the partners are so tired meeting various responsibilities and roles that they forget the significance of this beautiful intimacy. Couples forget the warmth of those initial days when they waited to be together. As a partner you forget that the “physical connect” draws you closer to the soul of your loved one. With time and growing responsibilities there is absolute loss of physical terms and hence rather than living every moment with your spouse you start “co-habiting” with him or her. Initially, generally the male partner tries to make an attempt but seeing no response from the other side his spirits die down. At this jucture you need to ask yourself if this is the kind of life and relationship you wanted for yourself. You also need to go deep down in the dreams of yours and revive the urge for your loved one. After all, you must not forget above all responsibilities you have a greater role of “spouse” to be played which should never take for granted. There are cases where the intimacy is dropped or gets dropped due to a child or over pressure of work. Here you must foresee the day when your child grows big enough to be independent and the job front gets settled. The relationship which was caught amid these would get difficult to be back on the track. rnThe smart thing is to rationalise your time and priorities and give due importance to this beautiful experience too. There are couples who cannot make love due to some kind of ailment or prolonged illness. In such a case there is no second opinion on consulting a Sexologist to get a better idea. Establishing back the intimacy is the most challenging task in a husband-wife relationship. You have to make sure that you start from the beginning if the gap has been quite long in your intimacy. The first and foremost attempt should be to make you partner feel that he or she is very important to you and also to make him or her understand that you value the “physical terms” and the cosy time you spend with him or her. rnPlanning a weekend out leaving your children behind with a responsible person is not a bad idea to initiate the vigour between two of you. rnEven if you spend a few hours with your partner ensure that every minute is a quality minuet rather than a quantity one. Nothing on this earth can replace the feeling of “being wanted” and this beautiful feeling can only be provided by your partner with whom you can share your heart, soul and of course the body.