After Losing a Loved One, The Doorway to Peace is Perception

“Inner peace will not come from a change in circumstances; it will come from a change in your perception of them.” – Through the Eyes of Another: A Medium’s Guide to Creating Heaven on Earth by Encountering Your Life Review Now You know the saying, “When it rains, it pours”? Sometimes, tragedies come down in torrential downpours, making us feel like we have to struggle to even come up for air. While grief over the passing of loved ones doesn’t go away, the worry and guilt so often associated with loss can and should be released – which we can do once our loved ones let us know they are okay. In my first book, The Rainbow Follows the Storm, I talk about my first reading ever, which was with a woman named Barbara who had just lost both of her parents in quick succession. I was so nervous, and I wasn’t sure if her parents would come through, or if anyone would come through. But as I relaxed, opening up to hearing what I needed to hear, it seemed like every member of Barbara’s passed family was lining up to come through, including her father, and especially her mother! Both parents had already been sending her messages that they were okay; she just hadn’t realized it. When Barbara’s mother first came through in that reading, she showed me an image of Barbara looking out of her window at an angel holding a seashell. When I asked Barbara what that meant, she told me that earlier that day she had been looking through her window at the statue of a cherub pouring water into a shell. As she stood at the window, she had silently asked her mother to please let her know that she was all right. That reading lasted four hours – because once her relatives started talking, they didn’t want to stop. We heard from Aunt Grace, Aunt Emma, Uncle Everett, Mom, Dad – the whole gang. And when it ended, Barbara felt so much better knowing that her parents – and the rest of her family – were okay, and very much aware of what she was doing. When we lose a loved one, it’s normal to grieve that they are no longer here to physically hold us in their arms. But we also need to realize that they aren’t really gone. Their love for us continues, as does their need to care for us. We want to know that they’re okay, but they are on the other side wanting to make sure we are too. Energy doesn’t disappear; it just changes form. Once you hold onto that perception, that life continues – and more importantly, that love continues – it’s much easier to find peace.