An Insight Into the Mind of the Average Male Who Lacks Confidence With Women...

As most men who have a fear of women know, the reason for their inadequacy is almost always intrinsically related to a lack of confidence in some form. A few men either a) don't know this or b) are unwilling to admit it, but the majority of men out there know that a lack of confidence is a reason for their inadequacy.

Admitting this is a fairly decent first step, but the real problems arise when trying to confront this issue, and namely, when trying to fix it. A person lacking in confidence knows that they don't have any confidence, much the same as a non-driver knows that they can't drive a car, or a monolingual person knows that they can't speak another language. And much the same as a person who is unable to drive or speak another language, most people don't have any idea where to start. Unfortunately, these are the type of people who will only ever speak one language, or use public transport, or have difficulty attracting women and attaining confidence without someone to guide them. Hopefully this article should address some of the key barriers that hold people back when trying to gain confidence, give them the ability to think for themselves in these initial phases of having no confidence, and also provide a little bit of guidance.

Ok, so you've taken the first step and admitted that you don't have the confidence to approach and thus attract women. The second step needs to be where you identify the problem, and then address it. Again, this follows the simple principles of practicing something in order to improve at it. So, using an example of a person who can't drive a car at all, where would they start?? Simple... At the beginning. Similarly, for a person who can turn the key in the ignition and drive forwards with no problem, but has no experience in reversing... You practice reversing.

In terms of attraction and confidence, the application of that principle is exactly the same. If you lack confidence in speaking to strange people, then figure out exactly what it is and address those issues... Perhaps if you practice approaching people and asking questions that you feel comfortable asking (for a lighter, directions or for the time) then approaching people might just become natural to you. Basically, you start from the beginning. Similarly, if you have no problems talking to people in every day situations and have no problem approaching people when asking honest questions, yet you are incapable of approaching a beautiful woman and striking up a conversation, then maybe you should assess exactly what the reasons why are and start from there. Figure out a way to approach the woman you desire that will make you feel just as comfortable as you would feel when approaching someone in the street and asking an honest question.

There are ways around everything and practice makes perfect. The only real problem is that most people don't have a clue where to start. Think about things logically and then decide your own starting point. If you can do this then you will be independently on your way to being attractive in no time at all.

J