Article

Are you a driver or a flyer?

Topic: Fitness and ExercisePublished August 7, 2012

Reader stats

★ 4.0 (1)1,025 views

Article rating

New ratings

Reader rating appears publicly after enough eligible article ratings.

Rate this article

Sign in to rate this article.

Sign in to rate this article

For the first 40 years of my life, despite being a pilot, I was a driver not a flyer. And then 7 or 8 years ago I made a small change that brought an unexpectedly big result. After years of dieting and working out like crazy and obsessing around food I lost two dress sizes when I wasn't even trying to lose weight. You see a driver works and works and works. They believe if I just do more, do it faster, do it better that's the answer. They push the river. They believe they can make it happen. And the truth is often they can make it happen. Determination is powerful. Over the years, I did manage to maintain my weight reasonably well, but I worked so hard at it that food and working out were constantly on my radar. There were many foods I simply would never even consider eating and I lived with constant guilt about not working out enough. Losing weight without trying caused me to rethink everything I'd ever believed about what it takes to get results and achieve goals. I discovered that we tend to work far harder than we need to and to focus on the wrong things. I realized that so many of the things that we are sure require us to struggle, really don't. My experience around losing weight formed my understanding of "flow". There are 3 key components to flow
  1. Spirit level- in its simplest form it's what brings you joy. If you do nothing but keep your attention on what brings you joy you must fly. You can't do anything but soar. Simple but not easy- as we all know.
  2. Mind level- planning, strategizing, organization- plan and strategize in specifics. Manage your time based on your goals and what brings you joy. Seems simple enough but how often do "shoulds and ought to's" crowd out our highest priorities?
  3. Physical level- consistency of effort. Hard work is a valuable and necessary component of being a flyer, but it has a different energy than being driven. It's more about showing up, being consistent, and trusting in your big vision. And a lot less about forcing and pushing.
If you've been a driver you'll recognize that level 2 and 3 get most of your attention. Why not shift it a little this year and see what can happen for you? "Lighten up" and lose the weight, build the business, and reach all of your goals so much faster. And best of all you can enjoy so much more of life. This year, as you "work" on your goals, I invite you to become a flyer and make it your year to “take off”. In Joy, Patty

Article author

About the Author

Patty Bear helps busy “women on the go” who are sick of dieting, but determined to be healthier how to “takeoff” the weight permanently. A commercial pilot, who flies internationally and the busy mom of 2 teenagers, Patty knows all about the challenges of finding the time and motivation to be healthy. Her 6 month program, Lighten Up & Lose™ shows women how to lose weight from the inside out so they can feel young, live long, and look great! Get her fr*ee e-course “The Lazy way to Lose Weight”- Discover 1 of the Keystone habits to permanent weight loss at www.theflyingclub.com

Further reading

Further Reading

4 total

Article

Carrying excess weight doesn’t just affect how you look — it can quietly reduce your energy, confidence, and bedroom performance. When a man gains too much belly fat, it can lead to lower testosterone levels, poor blood circulation, and reduced stamina. These changes may make it harder to maintain strong vitality, control, and endurance when it matters most. The good news? Small lifestyle changes can make a powerful difference. By focusing on better nutrition, regular mov

March 10, 2026

Article

Are You 40+ And Feeling…rnSlower metabolism? Stubborn belly fat? Low daily energy? Body stiffness or joint pain? You’re not alone — and you’re NOT “getting old.” Your body just needs a smarter strategy. Introducing The 40+ Fitness & Wellness ResetrnA simple, realistic system designed specifically for men and women over 40 who want to: ✅ Burn belly fat naturallyrn✅ Rebuild lean musclern✅ Boost energy levelsrn✅ Improve heart healthrn✅ Feel confident again

February 18, 2026

Article

Feel tired, inconsistent, or stuck on your fitness journey? This eBook is your gentle reset. rnMany people above 40 notice that weight gain, tiredness, and body weakness no longer respond to the things that worked before. rnThe truth is: the body changes with age, and health routines must change too. rnI recently came across a digital health guide on Selar, created specifically for people 40+, focusing on simple daily habits that fit our lifestyle. rnI shared the details here

February 14, 2026

Article

Movement is one of the most honest forms of self-connection. The body never lies. It holds stress, records emotion, and reveals when something feels off. For many, this is why exercise has always been more than fitness; it’s therapy through motion. But not all movement heals. Some styles exhaust, others distract. True healing often begins in the slow, intentional kind, the kind that lets the body lead and the mind follow.rnThat’s where precision-based training, such as re

November 6, 2025