Definition: Marriage Help

nnMarriage HelpnnMarriage Encounter (M.E.) is a religiously-based weekend program designed to help married couples improve their marriage, grow closer to each other, and improve commitment to each other. Originally a Catholic marriage renewal program, Marriage Encounters are now offered by a variety of Protestant, Jewish, as well as Catholic groups. Most all of them are open to couples of any or no religious persuasion.nnThe weekend programs usually begin on a Friday evening and conclude Sunday afternoon. Although they are not retreats in the classical sense, everyone stays the entire time at the hotel or other lodging facility where the program takes place. Meals are provided on-site.nnOver the course of the weekend, attending couples learn and practice a structured method of communication, which emphasizes mutual respect and healthy couple communication. The couples are encouraged to include God in their life together, though there is usually not direct religious instruction. Organizers say that a Marriage Encounter is not a traditional retreat, marriage clinic, group sensitivity training, or a substitute for counselling. Team members, though well trained in the materials they teach, are not marriage counsellors. Couples may benefit from learning the communication methods that may parallel some counselling methods.nnA further attraction of Marriage Encounter weekends is the opportunity for M.E. alumni couples to meet periodically for renewal meetings after the weekends, called "spirals" in many Marriage Encounter programs.nnStructure and ProcessnnThe leaders, called a Presenting Team, typically consists of three trained married lay couples and a clergy person or couple (priest at Catholic M.E. weekends). The leaders present a series of "talks" about specific issues, usually framed within some Biblical or religious text or concept. The participating couples write out letters and responses to questions to be read to and by their spouse in response to the talks. Then they ask each other some clarifying questions with guidance and structure from the leaders. In the terminology of many Marriage Encounter programs, this process is called "dialogue". This process helps the couples learn to listen thoroughly to their partners, and then ask about things that are not clear in the supportive environment of the weekend experience.nnHistorynnThe Marriage Encounter movement began in 1952 in Barcelona, Spain, as a Catholic marriage renewal program in Spain. It was known as the Encuentro Conjugal and founded by Father Gabriel Calvo, a Diocesean Laborer priest. Fr. Calvo and a group of "encountered" Spanish couples first brought Marriage Encounter to the United States in 1966. The first M.E. Weekend in English was held on the University of Notre Dame campus in summer 1967. A national organization was founded in 1969.nnIn the early 1970s, Marriage Encounter split into two separate Catholic organizations.nn * The original group that continued more in the tradition of Father Calvo became National Marriage Encounter, based in Minneapolis.n * An alternative group, Worldwide Marriage Encounter, was founded in New York City under the direction of Father Charles ("Chuck") Gallagher, a Jesuit priest.nnThe programs presented by National Marriage Encounter and Worldwide Marriage Encounter are similar, with the latter being more structured, presentation formats more standardized, and greater concern for its mission of renewal of the Roman Catholic church. Both organizations seek to elicit positive change in marriages, and in turn to help change the world by preparing and motivating couples and priests to be open and outreaching as they continue to strengthen their own relationships.nnOther "Expressions"nnWhile the program began in the Catholic church, both National Marriage Encounter and Worldwide Marriage Encounter organizations have provided generous assistance to help in the formation of Marriage Encounter expressions for other "specific faith believing communities." In addition to Catholic M.E. groups, today there are many Marriage Encounter organizations affiliated with Protestant denominations and nondenominational groups. There is a Jewish Marriage Encounter as well.nnSimilar programsnnSimilar programs, called Engaged Encounter and Pre-Cana Encounter, are available to couples considering marriage.nnPriests and avowed Religious are also encouraged to attend Catholic Marriage Encounter weekends. The same principles of love, commitment and communication that help married couples stay together can be applied by the priest or Religious to his or her parish or community.nnnWikipedia, the free enclyclopedia © 2001-2008 Wikipedia ContributorsnThis article is licensed under the GNU Free Documentation Licensenn