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Book Review: The Manual: A True Bad Boy Explains how Men Think, Date, and Mate--and What Women Can Do To Come Out On Top

Topic: DatingPublished October 17, 2007
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This book review is part of a series that covers the topic of Dating. The Official SelfGrowth.com Guide to Dating is Debra Berndt. Dating relates to social relationships between people in a cordial environment.nnThe Manual: A True Bad Boy Explains how Men Think, Date, and Mate--and What Women Can Do to Come out on Top is a valuable resource for people interested in Dating, and it is available through Amazon.com and Barnes & Noble.nnFrom Barnes & NoblenSelf-described "Bad Boy" Steve Santagati never aspired to stale monogamy. Over the past three decades, this former model has been a confirmed, confident serial dater, eager to please women -- and himself. As a regular guest on the Today show and The Tyra Banks Show, he offers his expert commentary on men's hidden agendas and unspoken needs. In The Manual, he spills the dish on what men really think and how they really act in relationships. nnFrom Publishers WeeklynSantagati, a former model and admitted bad boy who has appeared on The Oprah Winfrey Show and The View, has expanded on his relationship advice enterprise, AskSteveSantagati.com, to make this guidebook to dating and taming the wild male. Dissecting all aspects of the bad boy lifestyle, including lessons like "How Bad Boys Bring Out the Best in Women" and "Porn Explained," Santagati takes women through every step of the bad boy's process, from hunt to sex to relationship to "endgame." Despite some tough love ("The Myth of the Nice Guy") and blatant boorishness ("How to Clothe Your Chest"), Santagati doesn't grate or insult, coming off as no more than an experienced, confident man who loves women. Indeed, he's the guy "who you won't even know is trying to pick you up until you're leaving his apartment the next morning," and he provides brief lessons in spotting and avoiding the players and misogynists among the populace. Often direct, but never above goofy humor or cheesy sentiment, Santagi may not "reveal everything that you need to know to successfully date and have relationships with men," but his short, easy-to-digest chapters make a perfect way to browse away an afternoon, gain some perspective and try narrowing the age-old gap between the sexes. nCopyright © Reed Business Information, a division of Reed Elsevier Inc. All rights reserved. nnMore Reviewsn“Steve Santagati has done it again! He brilliantly shares the secrets men don't want women to know about them. It's like having a cool, best guy friend in your back pocket. This book is a MUST have for any woman who wants to know how men think, and, more importantly, have the upper hand in winning over the man of their dreams.”n—Dr. Robi Ludwig, author, psychological commentator, and host of TLC's One Week to Save Your Marriagen“Steve is definitely a man's man! I've seen him in action, and he knows what he's talking about when it comes to dating and relationships. I’m sure The MANUAL will become every woman's mible (a Bible on men)!”n—Rachael Ray, #1 New York Times bestselling author and TV personalityn“Steve has opened a real can of worms with The MANual. It's going to be much easier for women to traverse the dating world after they read this…and much tougher out there for the bad boys!”n—Molly Sims, star of the hit show “Las Vegas”n"[Santagati's] short, easy-to-digest chapters make a perfect way to browse away an afternoon, gain some perspective and try narrowing the age-old gap between the sexes."n—Publishers Weekly

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This book review is part of a series that covers the topic of Dating. The Official SelfGrowth.com Guide to Dating is Debra Be dt. Debra Be dt has been in the healing arts since 2000 working with clients on emotional, physical and spiritual issues. Be dt is a Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist with the American Council of Hypnotist Examiners (Cert. #104-078) and a member of the Colorado Association of Psychotherapists. She has been featured on television and radio throughout the US and Canada, and she has a regular guest spot on Denver's Channel 7 News discussing topics that relate to dating, relationships and the power of the subconscious mind. Her book on attracting true love through hypnosis is due out in late 2008. Be dt is the creator of The Dating Makeover, a self-help program to change unhealthy dating patterns in the subconscious so that singles can attract the love of their life. Additional Resources on Dating can be found at:nnWebsite Directory for DatingnArticles on DatingnProducts for HypnosisnDiscussion BoardnDebra Be dt, The Official Guide to Dating

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