Breaking Up Tips - The End of Dating or Love

Breaking up a relationship is always going to be tough and is never fun but with some Breaking Up Tips you can make the process a little more bearable and smooth for the both of you. Breaking up is usually the result of coming to the realization that the other person is just “not the one” or it’s not the right time in your life to have a relationship. These Breaking Up Tips are intended to give you some ideas that you may not have thought of before on how to go about breaking the news after you made the decision that it’s time to let go and move on. These breaking up tips are not intended to step you through the process bit by bit. Every case is different and every person is different. They are just an aid and idea jogger to find the best way for your situation. Let’s get to some of the Breaking Up Tips that include things you do not want to do. -Don’t break the news to the person in front of anyone else. The relationship you had is the business of just the two of you not everyone else’s. Not only is it embarrassing but it allows the break to have more tension and closure will take longer. -Don’t go running your mouth about your intentions of breaking up with your partner to anyone before you do it. I’m not saying you can’t seek advice about your decision or express your feelings to certain family and friends just not to the world. Have that certain amount of respect whether you think they deserve it or not. That is just the way it should be, is the mature way to go about the situation, and you‘ll feel better about the way you handled that day forever. -Do not do the initial breaking up over text or email. You should do it in your own human voice whether it’s over the phone or in person. I know this is the hard part but human gestures, inflection, and tone are all important when it comes to getting your point and feelings across. Miscommunication is inevitable when breaking up through just words typed on a phone or screen and I assure you the person your breaking up with will not feel satisfied and neither will you. Onto the Breaking Up Tips that will make it easier for the both of you. These are tips on the ways you may want to go about saying your decision and the places you may want to do it. Unfortunately most of the pressure and the tough task that lies ahead is on the person who made the decision to break up, which is you. If you put a little thought into what and how your going to say it will save you grief later. If the break up day is not done in the best manner you can do it, the other person may not feel “satisfied” or feel betrayed. Since you are the one initiating the action they will be running every single detail that took place that day and weeks prior to that point, through their mind over and over again. The manner (things you do or say) when your breaking up will either make them see the light and purpose or make them more confused effectively prolonging acceptance and closure. Do your best to be respectful, mature, and mindful of the other person. Let the other person down lightly. You want to make the break up seem likes it’s the only logical and natural thing to do and that there is no other choice. That is wasn’t meant to be. Breaking up is one of the hardest character challenges on earth for both partners but keep in mind one important thing: Acceptance. You are already at terms with this and the other is not. You already made up your mind. Now is the time for you and not necessarily the time for the other partner. Acceptance is initially going to be the biggest hump to the one you are breaking up with. It is this hurdle that you want to help the other partner to grasp and realize. If you really know it’s over stand firm when you are breaking up and during the weeks to follow. Don’t give an impression that there is light in the tunnel because that will always be misconstrued that there is hope and that you still like or love him or her. It doesn’t have to be lights out and never speak to the person again but when you do have dialogue over the phone, email, or in person make it feel a little foreign or removed. Make it not as comfortable as it was when you were hanging out together before the break. Use some or all of these Breaking Up Tips to make that day go as smooth as you can make it. Just be mindful and do your best. It all works out in the end and it will be for the better. Carry on carry on. The right person is out there for you and will come into your life when the time is right.