CAN YOU TRUST HIM?

Trust is vital in a good relationship, and of all the ingredients that create a really good relationship, trust is a biggie. How much should you trust? How soon should you give this trust? Are you jaded by some past jerk that lied to you or cheated on you? You don’t want to judge someone by another’s bad behavior, but....................

There are many men out there who have roving eyes and many who have roving bodies, you need to realize that every man is not a stinker. We have to get over our hurt and be open to new love. Don’t punish a new guy for the actions of a past guy. The thing is, keep an open mind and give a relationship time to develop and grow. Mutual trust will grow based on knowledge and the experiences we share with out new love. Give the relationship a chance to grow, a little at a time.

Little by little you will start expressing yourself. You will find that you do that when you are comfortable with this man. Maybe you both will begin share secrets from your past or you will start sharing your true feelings. Remember honesty is still the best policy. True intimacy is feeling so comfortable and opening up with each other and sharing feelings and ideas. Take it a little at a time. If you want a real lasting relationship, be honest and be someone he feels he can trust.

Many women are prone to play mind games. That is not a good idea if you want a long term trusting relationship. Let’s say one time he takes a little too long to call you back, and the next time you take ages and ages to call him back. Playing games is just that ... a game....not a trusting relationship.

Just because you don’t understand some things, or something rubs you the wrong way, that doesn’t mean you cannot trust him. Don’t read all kinds of things into everything he says and does. If something feels wrong, wait, don’t react emotionally, wait and sleep on it and look at it logically the next day.

That way you don’t overreact about nothing, or pressure him for an explanation, because that would make him feel uncomfortable and he could easily pull away. Deal with it realistically, logically. Men do think and can behave in ways that make no sense to women, and believe me, we make no sense to them either. Viva la difference.

Trust grows as the relationship grows. It builds between you and your partner over time. On the first date you both try to make a really good impression and you do your hair and your nails and wear the perfect outfit. After time things become more relaxed and the perfect outfit becomes the comfortable one.

If you have been picking one man after the other who wind up making you sing my man done me wrong songs, you may lose faith that you will be capable of choosing a good guy. Dating creeps does not make you one, just learn and eventually you will be attracted to a good guy.
Think about your past relationships and the things that went wrong and what attracted you to these stinkers in the first place and don’t pick the same type of man you pick in the future. Also don’t waste your precious time thinking about the guy that got away just one the one that is coming up in the future.

In a long term relationship, being with someone who can be angry with you without trying to hurt you can make you feel safe. Just knowing that there are certain lines that won't be crossed builds trust and you will find you can find a resolution to it.